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I have a 3years old, I have never asked a friend to babysit my child before, even if they offer, I'd rather ask my mom , if my mom is not available I'd rather hire some. Or worst comes to worst,I either take my toddler with me or cancel the appointment or change the plan. The reason I'm that way is , I just hate putting someone on the spot,if they feel uncomfortable to say "no" or even if they say "no" they might feel bad about saying that to me for whatever the reason. Because that's is how I feel and think about things. I know my friends are there for me when real emergency happens, and I'll be there for them too. But seems like that's not how some of my friends think about things.They ask way too easily and I have hard time relating to them. I either feel guilt or resentment. Here are few example, one time I was asked to take friend's kid to dance lesson and waite the whole 45minutes while the mother went away to attend her step id's baseball game with her husband. She did not want to leave her 3year old alone at the class, so I had to take my son who is also 3years old and do not attend this class. It was not easy to controll him 45minutes just sitting and watching what other kids do at the class. Mean while I was told to tell her "her mommy went to bathroom and be right back."if she asks. Another time, mother had to go somewhere 2hours away and back 2hours. But she thought "it would be more fun for her to play with my son than being in the car for 4hours". Now if it was me, I would rather take my child with me even though it is not "fun" for him. Or if she have many errands to run ,she also use that excuse. Am I being unreasonable?Answer Question
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