In my marriage I have been through many things. At the hands of my husband I have experienced physical abuse (mostly choking ), adultry, emotional/mental abuse (like we would be making love and he would say "If I was having sex with ***** I would have gotten off by now"), and verbal abuse (every name in the book, screaming, yelling). My response to these things was to shut down. I would not respond to him, not talk back, not defend myself physically (for fear he would squeez harder). I refuse to call him bad names, and I walked on eggshells until I learned what topics to avoid. He did go through an anger management program, what he got out of it is I was abusing him by not giving it up more often, I had to give him all the money or it was abuse, etc. He did stop physically abusing me and would instead leave for days to weeks on drinking and/or drug binges then come back and act like it was all better. He wants to come back???Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 8:04 PM on Jan. 28, 2009 in Relationships
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Answer by scaredmommy08 at 8:15 PM on Jan. 28, 2009
Why would you even ask? Why would you risk putting yourself through that again?
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Answer by beckcorc at 9:47 PM on Jan. 28, 2009
This is very dangerous behavior! Do not take him back he is not going to change. He thinks it's okay because you took him back in the past. You are worth more than being abused. You deserve to live a happy SAFE life. You need to get away from him go to a local woman's shelter. Take your kids and go they will find a safe place for you to stay, offer counseling, teach you skills and make you realize your important. I am so sorry your living such a horrifying life.
Answer by mommiedear at 10:14 PM on Jan. 28, 2009