What's wrong with me/possible tmi

I've been a married woman for 14 years now and I struggle with intamacy with my husband,he's not a touchy feely guy and never has been,in fact I think it's affecting our relationship. He never makes me feel good about myself anymore like he did when we were first married,he would call me sexy,or say things like,I found my soulmate. He no longer says anything positive about our relationship,he just calls me mom to which I reply,honey it really bothers me that you call me mom,cause I'm not your mom,I would prefer it if you would call me by some other endearing name,like honey,sweetheart,something sweet like that. In the bedroom I feel nervous and shy and want to hide from him when were intimate. I have been a bit heavy since 2005 I gained a lot of weight I was 125lbs,and could fit into really cute clothes,however I quit smoking and ballooned up to 200 lbs. Since I've been working I'm down to 186 lbs. and can feel my clothes feeling looser! I find myself wanting tons more for one a guy who will love me and hug me and kiss me,and hold my hand,and say sweet things to me. I don't get that from my husband and find myself wanting out of our marriage and dreaming about great sex,and passion. Our marriage has been on the rocks for awhile because of his lack of desire to make sure our finances aren't in jeapordy,he is often lazy and uncaring. He doesn't take care of himself,and his teeth are looking aweful,and he has a few missing teeth. I always put on makeup and make my hair look nice for him. Now I find myself doing it to see if other men will notice. You know what he calls it when he wants sex? The wet spot!!! How unromantic is that? I told him that's a major turnoff for me and he should find a new term for getting it on.

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