Why doesn't my husband understand why I'm so mad at him right now?

He had taken a large amount of our money to play the stock market without telling me. I found out when it slipped off during a conversation a few weeks ago. Today I find out he took another large amount to buy more stocks without telling me. I've never had trust issues until now. We tell each other everything. He says we have been coming ahead financially each month and doesn't see the problem, says the only reason he didn't check with me is because he knew I'd say no.

I've explained that the only reason we have come ahead is because we have been cutting down on expenses. I always tell the kids they can't have this or that. I watch the grocery bill like a hawk. We don't have the kids in programs and we don't ever go anywhere because he always whines about how expensive everything is yet here he is taking money to buy stocks without making the decision together.

He hasn't lost money, he has actually made money. But at first he was saying he was going to buy himself a car with it, now that I'm mad he says he's going to use it for the kids college education. He still plans on playing the stock market since he hasn't lost money yet.

We wouldn't have the money if it wasn't for me cutting expenses so now I just want to spoil the kids rotten, is that wrong?

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