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My in laws are always criticizing me for things I do with my baby. There are MANY, MANY examples but this is one of them. Not long ago we went to their home, there were lots of people, it was really loud and we had my 5 month old. I wanted to hold him for a bit to get him used to being there with all the people and the noise (we had not been over in months). My FIL with whom we are not on great terms with came up to me and tried to grab the baby, didn't ask nothing so I said "I want to give him a few minutes to get used to everything then I'll pass him around. Well he went to tattle on me to my DH, my DH took his side, didn't defend me didn't back me up. Also since my FIL didn't talk to my DH for over 2 years (and refused to come to our wedding, my son doesn't even know him so it's not like FIL could clam my son down just like I can. Every time there is a problem between me and my in laws, it's my fault, if I feel they did something, he tells me to get over it, if they feel I did something, he tells me I am wrong (though he can never really explain why I am wrong). I just wish he would care enough to defend me or at least tell them to deal with me themselves, not take their side every single time. The worst part is, when I get upset with him for not defending me, he says I am being childish. We have had 4 major fights in the last month, they were all about my in laws. I just can't take it any more, every time we see them, I know there is going to be a problem (no matter what I do) and I know DH will take their side. I really try with them, but at some point they are going to have to try too but why would they when anytime there is a problem DH makes it my fault? I just want him to support me, is that wrong?
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