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My ex, my son's father, wants to get my son for 2 weeks this summer. He has only seen my son 3 times in the last 3 years. And only TEXTS about 2 or 3 times a month to ask ABOUT him. He doesn't call or ask to talk to him. My son is 5 years old. My ex is in TX, we are in GA. He has no legal rights or visitation. I dont think sending my son to TX is a good idea. My son knows him, but considers my husband to be his Daddy. I am scared of the distance and time, yes, but mainly because of legal reasons. What if he didnt send him back or decides to keep him? I just dont think I should take the chance...what do you think?

***He threatened to take me to court. What suggestions do yall have with parenting plans? Like what should I request to be in it or about visitation, if he does take me? Please advice on this would be GREAT!!!

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Asked by CountryMom0608 at 1:51 PM on May. 24, 2012 in Parenting Debate

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Oh and he even asked me to LIE to the GOVERNMENT so he could get more MONEY. He wanted me to say that he sees MY son, 51% of the year so he could claim full BAH or BHA whatever! He has asked me like 3 or 4 times.

Comment by CountryMom0608 (original poster) at 2:11 PM on May. 24, 2012
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Like I said, tell him to bring it. Start documenting everythign and gatehring up proof he rarely sees him in case he actaully does it.
DO NOT I repear DO NOT lie for him expecially to the government, you will face jail time.

Answer by LostSoul88 at 2:13 PM on May. 24, 2012
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I have documented a lot. Every time he texts or comes home. I documented when he asked me to lie for him.

Comment by CountryMom0608 (original poster) at 2:20 PM on May. 24, 2012
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There is no way i would send him to TX.

Answer by DJDNY at 3:44 PM on May. 24, 2012
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I wouldn't let my son go. If you're worried he may take your son, listen to your instincts and don't do it. You say he has no legal rights over your son, so there's not a lot he can do.
But don't take legal advice from us, contact a lawyer!

Sharon

Answer by momto2boys973 at 8:48 PM on May. 24, 2012
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Hell no, if he does take your to court then the judge will order something but until then, you shouldn't send him. If he hasn't taken you to court in 5 years, he probably won't. Remind him if he does that he will be order to pay you back for 5 years worth of child support. Since he hasn't been around I would ask for an adjustment period for your son where your ex has to visit him in your area for a few hours at a time before overnights start.

Answer by JLS2388 at 10:00 PM on May. 24, 2012
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I always love to hear how my child feels about any situation that involves them. I wouldn't feel comfortable sending my child in this situation also. This is a situation that maybe does not need to be reacted on at the moment, just too fast for comfort.

Answer by ILOVEMYBOYS704 at 10:05 AM on May. 25, 2012
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I asked my son if he wanted to go and see his Daddy (his name) and he told me NO, that he wants to stay with me. He calls my EX Daddy (his name) and my DH just Daddy. He has said that my DH is his Daddy and my ex is his other daddy. It is not something I put in his head, it is the fact that my DH has been the sole provider and been here for and with him.

Comment by CountryMom0608 (original poster) at 10:13 AM on May. 25, 2012
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Going to court could be in your favor being that you have a good reason to doubt his ability to parent 24/7 with no experience at all. Could he be ordered to some training class.... I would say.... See you in court then.

Answer by AmaliaD at 10:06 PM on May. 27, 2012
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Let him take you to court. He hasn't a snowball's chance in heck of getting to take him for 2 weeks. Besides that, look how long it would take him to bring this to court even supposing he did? The summer would be over for a long, long time... I doubt he'd even get an overnighter - the chances are high that given he has little to no contact that he'd only get supervised visitation to start with. Plus, you could insist on your son staying in Ga so if your ex wanted to see him he'd have to come to you rather than you sending your son there.

How about seeing a lawyer about this? So that if he ever does take you to court that you can make a pre-emptive strike by suggesting he comes to Ga and takes your son for 3 hours every day. Just a thought.

Answer by winterglow at 4:39 AM on May. 28, 2012
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