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My step DD is 16 and 23 weeks pregnant (I asked her mom if she was 3 months ago and she got mad and said absolutely not). As far as what she does, I know I have no say, and I am ok with this. It should be up to her parents to guide her and she should make the final decision. However, both of her parents work full time and she is just about to finish her sophomore year so she is going to need someone to watch the baby. She has made comments that make me think she might expect me to. I work from home and me and dh have 2 small children plus I have 2 children of my own who are 9 and 12. I want to make sure she is not expecting me to watch the baby while she goes to school every day. I also want to make it plain that money is getting tight for us so while she would be welcome to live with us (with or without the baby) and while I would insist that my DH continue to pay child support for her if she stays with her mother (something he would legally not have to do), I will NOT be ok with paying regular child costs (like daycare for the baby). Don't get me wrong, as step grandma (or perhaps she will allow the baby to consider me a grandma) I will of course buy the baby gifts and things and I will be only to happy to babysit now and again, we just can't commit to regular sums of money and I can't commit to babysitting every day (my children with my DH are almost 2 and almost 4 and as I have said I also have a 9 and a 12 year old). I am thinking about just sitting down with her and telling her that if she chooses to keep the baby, me and her father will be happy to do what we can but ultimately, it will be on her to provide for her baby. I want to come across the right way, I do want to help her with her baby if she keeps it but I don't want to be expected to raise the baby. What should I do?Answer Question
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Answer by FelipesMom at 2:12 PM on May. 25, 2012
This conversation should not come from you. You and her father need to be in agreement before he talks to her. I'm not even sure you should be present when he has this discussion. She is 16 anything you say is liable to be written off as 'interference"
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