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Why do you think people are so unhappily married?

I am no expert but I do see a growing trend...
1 we verbally trash our mate, ...to the point even tv advertisements are getting in on the hit jobs. It is like we clip the balls off our men and wonder why they can no longer function.

2 we expect them to act like our BFF...and get really pissed when they can not "read our mind", flatter us to no end, get bored listening to us sometimes.

Why are we less and less willing to allow our husbands to be our husbands?  We marry them, then expect them to live up to this magical list in our heads that we have not even clearly defined...and wonder why they are so "stupid" or  "lazy"  "emotionally unavailable" or not living up to our standards of what we wanted to have as a man.  Let our girlfriends be our girlfriends but lets let our husbands be our husbands.

Admit it ladies...how many of our men got the stink eye today?


Why oh why ?

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SFerber

Asked by SFerber at 2:16 AM on May. 31, 2012 in Relationships

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  • Uhhh what are you basing this trend on? Posts here?
    xXMarlyeXx

    Answer by xXMarlyeXx at 2:21 AM on May. 31, 2012

  • It was how some women were raised and saw it modeled from the motherly caretaker, whomever that person was to them. Some women do not know how to be appreciative, tell their man how much they appreciate him, or perhaps they were never taught that respect goes both ways.
    onelove1982

    Answer by onelove1982 at 2:22 AM on May. 31, 2012

  • We've been married 29 years. No stink eye in this house, lol
    PMSMom10

    Answer by PMSMom10 at 2:22 AM on May. 31, 2012

  • Posts here to some degree but people in general...no one in particular...I just see it as a growing problem...and it is now even in our tv advertizements...as if watching a woman bash her man over a box of cereal is appealing.
    SFerber

    Comment by SFerber (original poster) at 2:23 AM on May. 31, 2012

  • I May get upset with my husband but I don't believe I'm anything like the harpy you described XD
    xXMarlyeXx

    Answer by xXMarlyeXx at 2:25 AM on May. 31, 2012

  • It's because people aren't true to themselves.
    Pucki

    Answer by Pucki at 2:38 AM on May. 31, 2012

  • WHY? maybe because some men DO NOT KNOW HOW TO ACT LIKE REAL HUSBANDS!
    To me, it looks like some men, do want us to pamper them while we do their job too!
    Monsita

    Answer by Monsita at 2:53 AM on May. 31, 2012

  • Blame is B-ing Lame. We have to take responsibility...and leave the blame for those who want to go on ahead and have sh*tty results.
    SFerber

    Comment by SFerber (original poster) at 3:26 AM on May. 31, 2012

  • Who is "we" exactly?
    xXMarlyeXx

    Answer by xXMarlyeXx at 3:34 AM on May. 31, 2012

  • WE is everyone. Personal Responsibility is a lost art
    SFerber

    Comment by SFerber (original poster) at 3:55 AM on May. 31, 2012

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