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Today my ex had to miss school because my daughter got pink eye over the weekend and she has been on those eye drops. According the daycare as long as she has been on them for over 24 hours she can go to daycare. Well I guess they didn't want her there so they called me but I didn't hear my phone go off so they called her dad and he messaged me and I didn't get the message till later but he ended up picking her up.
He is now mad at me because he had to miss school to watch her. I missed work 2 fridays ago when my DS had pink eye and the following Tuesday to take my DD to a specialist (6 month waiting list, couldnt change the time). He never takes the kids to their appts so I am the one ending up missing work if they need to go and I cant get one when I get off work.
He thinks I should have left work to go get her. I told him before we need to take turns. I will miss work then the next time he needs to miss school. He thinks schooling is more important then me keeping my job.
I already missed a lot of May, my DS was sick twice, missed once for DD and I had to miss a full week because I was very sick and couldnt go to work. (I lost my voice among other things adn I talk for 90% of my job).
How is this unfair that he had to miss school? Does he expect me to lose my job just because he chooses not to be a parent? He thinks I'm being unfair. Mind you I am the only one that has missed work when they were sick. It was when I left him, I told him we need to take turns since I need a job and the money to live off of.
Answer by kmath at 4:30 PM on Jun. 4, 2012
Answer by meooma at 4:21 PM on Jun. 4, 2012
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Answer by theMOMmission at 4:37 PM on Jun. 4, 2012
Yes, it should be shared. Unfortunately a lot of men do not think that way though, married, divorced or whatever.
Answer by 3libras at 5:14 PM on Jun. 4, 2012
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Answer by trystons_mommy at 5:10 PM on Jun. 4, 2012
I went thru this for years w/ my boys' father. I never could get him on board w/ helping out & we fought a lot about it. At least your ex answered his phone. Mine wouldn't. He's since passed tho, so all that resentment went with him & I see that despite his faults & our problems that he meant a lot to the boys. Sorry I don't have a good suggestion for you, except to keep reminding him the parenting needs to be more evenly split. Record it, b/c you will be replaying it a lot! :p
Answer by mrsmom110 at 5:15 PM on Jun. 4, 2012