Has anyone ever considered this?
My DH and I have very good friends, the Osmans, and they are unable to bear their own due to an attachment disorder with her uterus. Last October, a baby girl was placed in their home, and 6 days later, the mother had changed her mind and wanted her back. The baby was returned to the mother. Although I have an idea about how hard it would be for the Bmom, but I also see the hurt that it has caused our dear friends.
My DH and I have been talking about having one more of our own a couple years from now, our first, Weston, is due in April. We were hesitant about how to approach inviting them to our shower because we know they could be upset.
Has anyone performed a surrogacy? How could I go about proposing the idea to them? I'm more than willing to carry their baby. Is it rude to make the suggestion?
cont..Tell her you understand this may be too much right now and if she cannot then you are not hurt by her not attending the party. It really is that simple. I personally wouldn't offer surrogacy - and many of my friends who had similar experiences to me also had this offered to them. They equally felt odd about it. Believe it or not - time does help. So does getting another phone call and putting yourself out there. But we learn. We learn that things happen, things change, and nothing is concrete until it is. In other words we learn how to protect ourselves. So just listen, be kind, and if she should ever bring up surrogacy and you know you can - then offer.
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