My 11 yr old is...I don't even know the word for it. Well, I know what I'd call it in an adult, but he's my son and I don't want to use that word to describe my son. Lately, he's bossing his little brother around constantly, and not just a "I want to play this" but I'll ask "Will one of you go do X?" and he'll immediately say "You do it" to his brother. He's always telling him to go away and saying hurtful things that make him cry.
Tonight, I'm in my bedroom which is right next to theirs, and I hear what sounds like "ouch" so I go in there. He tells me his little brother is sucking his thumb. So I ask my youngest, who is 8, why he is sucking his thumb, and he says it's because his brother hit him. He's crying his little eyes out, and my 11 yr old is trying to say he didn't hit him.
If he's not hitting him, bossing him, or saying mean things to him, he's tattling on him and trying to get him in trouble - but only after he's been doing whatever it is right along with his little brother!
I just don't understand it. He used to be a sweet kid, used to defend his brother, play with him. He was a little bossy and sometimes mean, but not outside the norm for siblings. Lately, though...he's just like a bully and I don't get it.
Any suggestions why he's doing this? Or how to stop it?
Asked by Anonymous at 10:34 PM on Jun. 4, 2012 in Tweens (9-12)
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