I have 3 children - a 16 year old daughter and 13 year old son from my first marriage ( my husband past away when my son was 3) ...
I am now married again ( for 7 years next month ) and have a 1 year old son ...
I work 2 days a week as a nurse ( 12 hours) , and until a couple of weeks ago, everything was fine because I had a wonderful babysitter for my baby .... but her and her family just moved away ...
Now, is it selfish and unreasonable to expect my 16 ( almost 17) year old daughter to watch my youngest son 2 days a week from 8am - 3:30pm ( when husband gets home) ... not including he takes 2 long naps during the day ....
Now she says she wants paid for watching him... BUT I feel like I shouldnt have to pay her extra - she and my older son both get several hundred dollars EACH a month from their fathers death ... whne they were younger I always saved that money up for them ( and they both continue to save a large portion of it) .... But I just feel that if she is already getting that much money, not to mention I do ALL of the cleaning and cooking and driving her places, plus 90% of the time I end up buying her things instead of her using her own money ....
I mean I plan on having a long talk with her about it, because I dont think it is that out of the question, do you?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:47 AM on Jun. 16, 2012 in Parenting Debate
Honestly, a little. Only because it's summer & she wants her freedom. Not too mention, I'm sure she's not thrilled about having to get up early. So, she needs some kind of compensation, not necessarily money but, something.
Answer by 3libras at 1:55 AM on Jun. 16, 2012
Answer by gdiamante at 1:56 AM on Jun. 16, 2012
Answer by AllAboutKeeley at 2:06 AM on Jun. 16, 2012
Well being I'm the oldest girl, I was my mothers babysitter (for free). I feel it's 2 days a week, that's nothing. I sat 5 days a week 10 hours a day and it taught me an enormous amount of responsibility. My mom left a list of chores we all had to do and she also left money for us to go to the pool twice a week. If we didn't do our chores we didn't get pool time. My mom was a single mom so I had to step up. I feel your daughter should start contributing, a family is a team and it will teach her some life lessons.
Answer by luvmygrlz at 2:14 AM on Jun. 16, 2012
Answer by feralxat at 2:15 AM on Jun. 16, 2012
Answer by Michigan-Mom74 at 4:07 AM on Jun. 16, 2012
Answer by Dardenella at 4:30 AM on Jun. 16, 2012
I think you're on your way to getting it worked out already. They are both way overdue in having regular chores assigned to them. As to the babysitting, it's only 2 days a week & it would help the family as a whole to save some $ before having to pay a sitter in a couple of months. If she has no intention of looking for summer work, I think a small allowance based on chores & babysitting is reasonable, but no more handouts. It will teach her to budget her $. And even if she wanted summer work, it'd be very difficult to find. Due to our lovely economy, only 1/3 of teens are able to get jobs right now, due to the competition from college students & others out of work, willing to take entry level jobs. I think you are being fair & they should be thankful they haven't had regular chores up til now! GL :)
Answer by mrsmom110 at 6:39 AM on Jun. 16, 2012