My childs father left in feb, had another relationship, sex and fell in love and continues to lie to me. He wants me to be patient.

During the two years we were together, he was a habitual liar. He had so many different girls numbers, pictures, masturbating video, even a gay guy was contacting him asking him for pictures and calling him breadstick because of his penis structure. I am including a document i made in may when we argued and i wanted to end it, but couldn't.......When we first got together, he had numbers saved as big boobs, flat abs huge breast, md girl, etc.
Says he had been with 15 people and then 20.
He lies too much.
Says he messed with lab tech at his job when he first started there.
When I asked if she still works there, he said what areyou talking about.
Said he never did.

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When I was three months pregnant, went to sc
He had pictures on his phone of breast.
Side shot and front.
Exactly like he always asks me for.
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When I was four months pregnant, he was having lunch with a patient.
She was texting and calling him co

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You deserve to be treated better than this....time for you to move on. Hugs mama

Answer by ohwrite at 2:19 PM on Jun. 20, 2012
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I'm not sure of your question.

My answer is...You are much better off without him.

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Personally I'd leave or kick him out. Your choice. He's had time but you have to decide if this is what you want your child to grow up with. Sounds like he's got a ways to go on growing up himself.

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If you knew it was like this in the beginning and he continued to lie you should have left before you got pregnant. Now you're stuck with him because you have a baby with him. Just remain friendly and dont let his lies get to you. Protect your baby from his lies.

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We share a beautiful one year old. He left a week after her first birthday. Said he wasn't ready for family life. Likes his freedom. Needs time to do him and chill. During the four months, he wasn't doing him. He was doing Amy. I don't know why I keep putting myself through this. I guess I just need someone to vent to. I don't want to involve friends and family because they would think less of him and he is still Kaylas dad. My question is how do I move on mentally and let him go? I don't think he will ever be 100 percent honest or faithful.

Comment by chrislynn114 (original poster) at 2:25 PM on Jun. 20, 2012
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Hey kayla is my DDs name!

Take your time and only talk to him when it comes to your child.

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It takes time to get over someone. Keep moving forward.

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This guy may be the guy who got you pregnant but he doesn't sound like or even deserves the title of father. I would file for child support and file for full physical custody. It's the best thing to protect you and your child. If you don't you would miss out financially and would you want him to take the child and bring her around his skank of the week? Protect yourself and your child and try to move on emotionally. I know it seems hard and you may have love for him but just remember that his love came and went but the love of your child is forever. Do it for her as well as yourself. She doesn't deserve to have that type of negative male influence. Stay strong and remember that your kid comes first, always.

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We went to our child support hearing this Monday. He wasn't very happy and doesn't think he should work to pay child support. But everything is official and that aspect is taken care of. He wants to keep his apartment, bachelor pad, with his brother and spend time with me the two days a week that he has visitation of our daughter. He likes his freedom and independence, he says. I don't know what it is about him, usually I am stronger and would tell anyone else in my shoes to get away from the situation. I have blocked his number numerous times, but always unblock it afte a few days. I am trying hard to forgive him, but something always happens to remind me of what he did to me, and i vent out at him and tell him that I am like this because of what he did. He said he could be honest, faithful and commit if i got counseling for my anger. I wasn't angry until he left me with another mortgage, another child and walked on us.

Comment by chrislynn114 (original poster) at 2:50 PM on Jun. 20, 2012
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He likes to play mind games and make me feel like I am the one with the issues. At first it was his porn, masturbation, video games, mother, etc. and his issue with me was that i was negative about his mom, and didn't let him do things he wanted. I told him that i was afraid he wasn't were he said he was given his past and my issue of trust with him because of his behavior. we went to counseling once and counselor sided with him and said i am carrying pain from past relationships. told him i was fine until brandon started cheating, lying, etc. he wants me to go to counseling because i need to work on forgiveness. he thinks i should accept it and move on. i have tried, but when he continues to tell me he wants to keep option of dating open, do him, and take things slow, i get a little upset. we have a house and child together. hard to go backwards.

Comment by chrislynn114 (original poster) at 2:54 PM on Jun. 20, 2012
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