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I don't know why it bothers me so much, but it does. my sister is 26, my brother is 22 and I am 30 today. Well today my mom texts me at 3pm to wish me a happy birthday she didn't call she texted i am kind of upset that she texted instead of called. Well she also got my sister and brother 50.00 for their birthday and me all i get is a text. my grandma for the past 5 years have gone to flordia every year and gone through my birthday and she always says we will do something when she gets back, but doesn't. She gives my sister and brother 100.00 for their birthday, but me nothing. The year before she started going to flordia she gave me 5.00 for my birthday and before that she gave me trash bags and a trash can because someone told her I didn't have a trash can in my house (which I did it was outside to be sprayed and cleaned). My mom will go out of her way to watch my sisters 4 year old son, but to me i have a 7,4 and 10.5 month old girls if i need a sitter she has things to do. Like a couple weeks ago I needed to go to the ER for shortness of breath and asked my mom to watch the girls, but she had to go to church and she said why can't i take them with me (my dh was taking me) so of course i had noone to watch them so we brought them with us to the ER DH dropped me off and I called when he needed to pick me up. He let the kids sleep until he got a call I called him at 2 am to pick me up so he had to wake the kids up to bring them back out to get me at 2am. We didn't have the money for a taxi. It is like my family treats me diffrent I don't know why. They have always treated me diffrent. Even christmas my grandma gives my brother and sister 100.00, but me nothing. And my brother treats everyone like crap and he still gets stuff. He told my mom a while back that he wished she would die and my mom said something about him moving out (22 and still lives at home with no bills) he said no you can move out to my mom. My sister and brother never paid rent, but i had to pay rent even just babysetting and getting 50.00 a week i paid 20.00 a week so only got 30.00 of that check. My mom bought my sisters year books in high school, but me i had to buy mine. i never got a class ring cause my mom wouldn't buy it, but she bought my sister one.

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Asked by Anonymous at 2:35 PM on Jun. 20, 2012 in Relationships

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  • this is why I don't spank my kids unless it is really really needed like going into the street what not stuff like that which is rarely. I believe in spanking I do, but I also don't want to turn out like my mom so i am afraid to spank
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 7:25 AM on Jun. 21, 2012

  • Good lord, woman... why are you even talking to that walking womb? That's all she is to you... a walking womb. (There's another term that fits better but I'm not gonna use it.)

    Forget the birthday stuff. And forget HER. She's DONE. Why? Re-read your own responses, and ask yourself on what planet that behavior is acceptable!

    I've always said, "The only bad mother is the one who beats her baby."

    Yours is a BAD MOTHER. Get her OUT OF YOUR LIFE.

    (By the way... they're half-siblings. You DON'T have the same dad, save for the adoption which apparently mean nothing to that walking womb.)
    gdiamante

    Answer by gdiamante at 10:00 PM on Jun. 20, 2012

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  • i didn't even know he adopted me until i was 11 and didn't find my bio dad until i was 15, but he hasn't talked to me for about 10 months now.
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 6:33 PM on Jun. 20, 2012

  • Did you notice this from an early age? Do you and your siblings have the same mom and dad?

    yes i have. My mom would wake me up in the middle of the night to clean my room because toys were under the bed or shoved in the closet or what not, but me and my sister shared a room, but didn't wake my sister. My mom use to wash my mouth out with dish soap by squirting it in my mouth. My mom would grab me by my shirt for looking at her wrong and punch me in the back, she banged my head against the wall before for looking at her wrong. She had me at 19 my dad adopted me when him and my mom married so she has my sister and brother from him. She said one time she can't stand that sometimes i look and act like my bio dad.
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 6:31 PM on Jun. 20, 2012

  • It has happened to me..it bothered me so much that I NEEDED TO DISTACE MYSELF FROM THEM.....I left to a different country....I STARTED A NEW LIFE WITHOUT THEM!
    Monsita

    Answer by Monsita at 5:28 PM on Jun. 20, 2012

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  • I'm so sorry you're going through that. Yes, it would most definitely bother me!

    Sharon
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    Answer by momto2boys973 at 4:52 PM on Jun. 20, 2012

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  • Did you notice this from an early age? Do you and your siblings have the same mom and dad?
    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 2:46 PM on Jun. 20, 2012

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  • Of coarse it would bother me but to be honest it sound sjust like what I go through with my family and I have learn to not let it get to me anymore. Life moves on. I never got a call from my parents on my b-day and my grandparents send y brothers money on their b-day when I have never gotten anything but I no longer care.
    LostSoul88

    Answer by LostSoul88 at 2:42 PM on Jun. 20, 2012

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