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First off I want to say I grew up with gay people, I am not homophobic or anything like that. Both my dad and brother are gay and I am happy for them and love their partners. This is about gay adoption. While I am all for it I will tell you why I am against it for my dad. I am 24 years old and I have an older brother and sister who are in their 30s. My mom and dad divorced back when I was around 3 years old and I used to go to a different state(not naming it) to visit my dad every weekend and eventually met his partner. They now have been together for about 18 years and from the start My dads partner and I became close. I thought of him as another dad. Everything was great and then I eventually moved in with them when I was 15 years old. Then when I was about 19 years old things fell apart. My dad and I wasnt that close anymore because his partner kept getting between us and pushing us away. Then I just left. I had my son in 2008 and my sister has 2 kids herself. Well a few years ago my dad and his partner decided to foster and adopt 3 brothers under 12 years old. While I think that is a great idea and support it, I just dont think its good for my dad. My dad is almost retirement age and his partner about 10 years younger. They could provide a stable home but I just dont think now is the time, if they wanted to do it they should have done it years ago. I think my dad just went along with his partner and that it was his partners idea. I mean my dad has 3 kids all grown up and 3 grandchildren to love and soon to be more! I dont understand why my dad would want more kids at his point in life. Now the deal is, I feel he has pushed me and my son away and even my brother and sister and newphew and neice. He wont spend time with us or his grandchildren but will with his 3 new sons. I feel "Replaced" Now I am asking, do you think that this is right for a dad of 3 kids and 3 grandchildren to adopt more kids and push the REAL ones away? I am so mad about this and frustrated. any help would be great. trying to find a forum to talk about this with other children of gay dads like me :(Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 11:46 AM on Jun. 25, 2012 in Parenting Debate
Answer by luvmygrlz at 11:51 AM on Jun. 25, 2012
Answer by sahmamax2 at 11:51 AM on Jun. 25, 2012
Answer by m-avi at 11:52 AM on Jun. 25, 2012
Answer by dullscissors at 11:52 AM on Jun. 25, 2012
Answer by theMOMmission at 11:53 AM on Jun. 25, 2012
Answer by theMOMmission at 12:02 PM on Jun. 25, 2012
I just think they wouldnt the court see hmmm well you cant take care of your three kids in any way
I have an older brother and sister who are in their 30s.
What court in the country thinks mentally competent 30 year olds need to be taken care of?
Answer by feralxat at 12:04 PM on Jun. 25, 2012
Answer by dullscissors at 12:07 PM on Jun. 25, 2012
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