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BEING A STEPMOM

BEING A STEPMOM AND THEN THE BIOLOGICAL moM COMES BACK AFTER 16 1/2 YEARS. NEED ADVICE.MY HEART IS BREAKING.

MONJ

 
monj

Asked by monj at 7:36 PM on Jan. 31, 2009 in Relationships

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  • You are not being selfish you are being just like any of us would be when it comes to our children. Your daughter knows who has been there for her. And may I add what a wonderful, lovely Mom you are for doing this for your daughter. Remember you are a very special person.
    pnwmom

    Answer by pnwmom at 7:48 PM on Jan. 31, 2009

  • Shes still the mother. You raised them and youre the mom as far as everyday stuff but they have the right to know their mother.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:38 PM on Jan. 31, 2009

  • support the child regardless of the situation. fine let the mom come back-bc when you look at the situation, you are the one that has been there and raised that child. dont deprive the child from knowing bm but keep in mind you was the one that was there.
    SThompson21

    Answer by SThompson21 at 7:40 PM on Jan. 31, 2009

  • Aww that is hard. I know your heart is aching right now. Just let them get to know their mother and realize that you are their Mom. Anyone can give birth, it takes someone special to be a Mom. Hugs to you sweetie.
    pnwmom

    Answer by pnwmom at 7:41 PM on Jan. 31, 2009

  • There's a mother and then there's a mom, anyone can be a mother, all it takes is giving birth, being a mom takes so much more. You are the mom, let the mother come make herself known and just keep being mom who's been there the whole time.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:44 PM on Jan. 31, 2009

  • You have nothing to worry about... the kids will let her know who MOM really is!
    Jeannie29

    Answer by Jeannie29 at 7:48 PM on Jan. 31, 2009

  • no you love your daughter. of course you are going to hurt. but your daughter will find everything out soon enough. the truth always come out in the end. just be there for your daughter and support her. you are a good woman!
    SThompson21

    Answer by SThompson21 at 7:57 PM on Jan. 31, 2009