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I have a 16 yr old son who I am having ALOT of problems with and needs advice badly. His father put him on his cell phone plan last year for her birthday and these past 6 months or so he has gotten really addicted to his phone. He admitted to my mother that he is addicted to it. He is on it ALL the time and never wants to do anything else with his life. He failed two classes this past school year because he never wanted to study or anything else. He has been chatting to these girls from out of state and ends up "dating" them and "falling in love" with them. A couple weeks ago he got dumped by one of these girls and he got suicidal. This morning I decided to take his phone away so he can focus on getting a job, doing his community service that he needs in order to graduate,etc. He flipped out because I took it away and he took off on foot and ended up walking to his dads house. His dad ended up calling me telling me that he didn't want to come back home blah blah blah. Well my son just walked back into my door about 15 min ago after being gone for just over 3 hours. He told me his father will be calling me when he gets out of work and his father says he can have the phone since he pays for it. This whole thing pisses me off because his father never wants to get involved with anything when it comes to my boys unless it's something like this. I am just at my wits end with all this and stressing out badly. I feel like I just want to breakdown and cry sometimes. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks....PS. I am not giving him back his phone just because his father says he can have it but I am not sure how long I should keep it from him. Ideas?Answer Question
Your house, your rules. Tell him he needs to take a one week break from the phone. Tell dad tough shit, it's your house, your responsible for the discipline there. If he wants custody full time then he can deal with the discipline, period. Hide the phone with a friend so he can't "find" it. Re-address the issue in one week. Then let him have it back for a few hours a day. My kids have a no technology from 10-6 rule in the summer so they don't just sit in the house all day.
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