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We are considering adopting a special needs child in the next 3-4 years. We have first hand experience with Asperger's and Autism. Our DS who is 8 has Asperger's. We were wondering how the process worked. I know fostering into adoption is the most cost effective way but do you get to 'choose' the child who best fits your family or do they just place a child with you. If we want to be 'picky' (for lack of any other word) do we need to go private? We want to adopt an Autistic girl between 2-5 years old. We want a girl because we are in a 3 bedroom home and DS who is autistic need his own space. DD who is nero typical can share. My kids are 8 and 4 now and DH and I are each 31. Will they allow us to adopt at 34/35? Any information would be appreciated. WE live in Ga if that makes a difference.
If this is not the best place to get this info then who do you suggest we contact? We are just very naive on the subject of adoption!
Asked by Anonymous at 9:23 AM on Jul. 2, 2012 in Adoption
Answer by Susangolich at 11:00 AM on Jul. 5, 2012
Yes, you can set parameters for children that would be best suited for your family and that you'd be best suited for and, in fact, you are required to say so. It was awkward at first because you really would like to be open to any child, but it's better for the child to be in a family that is best suited to meet his/her needs. Does it mean you will get a "made to order child"? Of course not, but it does help the placement workers and again, the child, in the long run whether they are foster only or if their case goes to adoption. As far as age requirements, etc., call your local DHS office and see when their next training starts. I always say that regardless if you go through with foster care and/or adoption thru DHS, the training info is invaluable and will affect how you see the world afterwards. GL!
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