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I need some advice about a 14 & 13

i just started watching a 14yo boy and his 13yo sister. (niether one can stay home alone because they have mental issues.) the two fight like crazy. their mom just got rid of her boyfriend (who they had called daddy for the past 9 months) and their real dad refuses to have any contact with them. could this be the cause of all their anger issues? the girl and my middle one has started to fight also. i'm just not sure what to do. the fighting just started between the girls and i want to stop it now before it gets worse.
anyone got any ideas?
so far i'm making sure none of them are left in the same room together alone.

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noel1978

Asked by noel1978 at 4:34 PM on Jul. 7, 2012 in Teens (13-17)

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  • Have the mom tell you what techniques the counselor is teaching the kids.
    Then use them.
    Make sure the same discipline techniques are used by you and the mom.
    You know, consistency at both locations.

    Anyone can play by the rules of the game as long as they know what the rules are...
    feralxat

    Answer by feralxat at 8:47 AM on Jul. 8, 2012

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  • Are they in counseling? That would be the first thing above all. If so, you may need to have mom get advice from the counselor on what steps to take. "Mental issues" is pretty broad so hard to really say what else to do.
    gdiamante

    Answer by gdiamante at 5:33 PM on Jul. 7, 2012

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  • Can you plan activities for them to do? Games, library reading club, outings to the Mall, batting cages, Putt Putt, etc. Keeping them busy may be helpful. I would also want to know what counseling they are getting & helpful hints are suggested like gdiamante said.
    mrsmom110

    Answer by mrsmom110 at 6:38 PM on Jul. 7, 2012

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  • Keep them busy or separated. Check with the mother about what types of counseling they are getting.
    meooma

    Answer by meooma at 7:00 PM on Jul. 7, 2012

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  • they see the counsor on wed. right now it's anger issues. their anger is geared towards their family because they all rtreat them like crap and don't want nothing to do with them. the mom is trying to undo what the family did. but it's gunna take time.
    noel1978

    Comment by noel1978 (original poster) at 7:34 PM on Jul. 7, 2012

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  • I agree with feralxat
    booklover545

    Answer by booklover545 at 1:55 PM on Jul. 8, 2012

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