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Does "true love" exist? ( a little long )

I have always been a lover of fairy tales & romantic movies, & firmly convinced that there is someone for everyone. Someone for whom your caring & passion will never fade, who can manage to make you feel swept off your feet even after you've both had the worst day imaginable. (Think exhausted, covered in kid vomit, the whole 9 yards of life's non-magical stuff)
But now, with my current experiences & point in life, I find myself wondering.... would Romeo & Juliet's passion have survived beyond the teenage hormones? Do lovers live decades together in happiness, a la The Notebook? Could Catherine & Heathcliff have cared for each other, knowing the darkness at the heart of each other as they did? Did Baby & Johnny Castle make it, or was it just a summer fling, her first exposure to the closeness of sex & his first exposure to someone giving a damn?
What I guess I'm asking is.... Do you think there is a perfect person for each of us, with whom an honest, passionate, caring, devoted, fun relationship would be possible with a little effort? Or is it all just hormones, fronts & fantasy?

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Asked by Anonymous at 11:43 PM on Jul. 9, 2012 in Relationships

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  • Yes, I think it does. I was married for 12 years to the wrong person and it was hard work every single day the entire 12 years! But now I've been married for 4 years (together for 6) to the right man for me and it's so incredibly easy. Everyone says marriage is hard work, but I don't think it really is if you're married to the right person. We have 5 kids (3 from my previous marriage, but they live with us) and even at the end of the day when it's just the two of us, it's still incredible. But then, he's a truly amazing man!
    missanc

    Answer by missanc at 9:11 AM on Jul. 10, 2012

  • There is a difference between true love and fairy tale love. Which one are you talking about?
    maecntpntz219

    Answer by maecntpntz219 at 11:49 PM on Jul. 9, 2012

  • Fairy tale love does not exist. True love does exist, it just takes a lot more patience and work. There'll be days where you'd like to wring his neck and he drives you crazy, but you still love him lol....
    KayleesMommy89

    Answer by KayleesMommy89 at 12:22 AM on Jul. 10, 2012

  • In your scenerios, no that does not exist. Real life love is a lot of work, commitment, time, patience, a little distance, etc...etc.... (you get the picture)
    m-avi

    Answer by m-avi at 12:23 AM on Jul. 10, 2012

  • I know, I know, no glass slippers, etc. I just mean, in spite of the slight silliness in the original, is there a possibility of a relationship that really works? You care for, respect, want this person, & they feel the same? That you're both willing to put in the effort for the relationship, for the best life together you can make, & at the end of the day you're very happy to be together? & that as long as you both keep up the effort, it will last & grow stronger, not become one-sided, devolve into resentment, or lose the warmth?
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 12:33 AM on Jul. 10, 2012

  • True love yes
    mommys2cupcakes

    Answer by mommys2cupcakes at 12:55 AM on Jul. 10, 2012

  • OP, I have no idea... I have not had any luck. I've been married for seven years now, prior to that 16 was my record. I think most of the time it would be easier to be by myself, in all honesty.
    m-avi

    Answer by m-avi at 1:17 AM on Jul. 10, 2012

  • "you're both willing to put in the effort for the relationship, for the best life together you can make, & at the end of the day you're very happy to be together? & that as long as you both keep up the effort, it will last & grow stronger"

    That is practically the definition on how to maintain your relationship. If you both work to keep it fresh and happy then it will be. I think that when couples "fall out of love" that 8-9 times out of 10 it's because the relationship was one-sided, with only one doing all the giving and the other doing all the taking.

    I am fortunate in having found someone who understands that we both must make an effort to keep our flame burning. We've been together for nearly 30 years and I still love him with all my heart.
    winterglow

    Answer by winterglow at 4:03 AM on Jul. 10, 2012

  • What I guess I'm asking is.... Do you think there is a perfect person for each of us, with whom an honest, passionate, caring, devoted, fun relationship would be possible with a little effort?


    Yes because this ^^  is what I have with my husband.  We celebrated our 24th anniversary yesterday.
    beeky

    Answer by beeky at 6:42 AM on Jul. 10, 2012

  • True love depends on your definitiion. All of your examples are, as others pointed out, Fairy Tale love. Love takes work.
    meooma

    Answer by meooma at 7:20 AM on Jul. 10, 2012

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