I am a babysitter for a 6 year old little boy. I am also a 28 year old woman so I am not your typical teenage babysitter. This little boy has been lying...they are not big lies it is things such as I don't remember what mom said (or you) Or he will tell me...I was going to pause the game so I could take out the trash when he had just started a new game. He was told to take out the trash yesterday after breakfast. He was playing a game while eating, his game got over, he was done with breakfast and he started a new game. I said what were you suppose to do "I don't remember" take out the trash I say. Oh yeah...I was going to pause my game, no he wasn't I am not stupid. His lies are not hurting anyone but they are still lies. His mom would spank him. I will not spank for the mere fact I don't believe in spanking and he is not my child. Time out does not seem to work for him. Just now as I typed this I told him not to look at his library book while eating breakfast and he didn't listen. I guess a time out is worth a try but he doesn't do good with those either. He would sit and stare at the tv all day if I (0r his mom) let him. His mom will let him I won't. He would also play video games on the times that he isn't watching tv...she has limited him to 2 hours a day of games. I am at a loss for what I can do. I can't spank him as he isn't mine and time outs don't work for him. When I was younger I had a problem with lying also and my mom washed my mouth out with soap. I learned not to lie however I run into the problem he isn't my kid. His mom is a single mom and the dad isn't in the picture. She lets him get away with a lot of stuff. I truly believe that he is acting this way in part becasue of how she raises him but that makes it hard as a babysitter. What can I do? I have talked to the mom and she doesn't offer help as far as solutions other than don't send him to his room because he will just play. So I am asking all of you...I am at the point I don't want to come babysit him anymore which is sad becasue he can be such a fun little boy....Answer Question
Answer by SWasson at 10:07 AM on Jul. 10, 2012Credits: 103477 Level 38 School-Age Kids (5-8) Minor
Answer by LeJane at 10:08 AM on Jul. 10, 2012Credits: 28745 Level 26 School-Age Kids (5-8) 101
That is info on why they lie- and what to do
As far as him forgetting to do the trash- kids that age need to be reminded, I think they sort of live in the moment and it is easy for them to forget. I would say jsut have him do it NOW then go back to the game. Don't let him tell you how he will do it later...OR when that game is over-remind him before he starts something new.
Answer by charlotsomtimes at 10:15 AM on Jul. 10, 2012Credits: 146620 Level 42 School-Age Kids (5-8) Minor
Sounds more like he's making excuses for his lack of cooperation. I would change the structure of how you do things a little. Like if he is to help w/ chores after breakfast, then he does that before he gets to play his game. I do like the idea of introducing other activities & the reminders to be honest.This is a life lesson he needs to learn, whether he's w/ you or at school. If you really think the missing male figure in his life is a factor, do you have a close friend or family member who she would approve of as a male influence? Or maybe the Big Brother program?
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