I lived with my husband for 5 years before we got married. We've been married for about 7 months now. He used to have a problem with porn, which I ended or else we wouldn't get married, and I wouldn't be with him. I hated that stuff bc he chose that over me. I thought with it gone we'd have sex more often. (more than 2x a month) Nothings changed. Since we've been married sometimes we'll be intimate on Saturday. If I'm lucky. I can't take it. I am really frustrated. He won't let me discuss it with him. He gets real irritated with me, and says that brining it up makes it worse. I cry at night when I go to bed sometimes, it just makes me sad. I am attractive and in good shape. I've been going to the gym, and trying to lose weight, that I probably don't even need to lose. We don't fight - we have a really strong relationship otherwise. Am I asking too much, to want to have sex with my husband a few times a wk?Its like work 4 him.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:46 AM on Feb. 2, 2009 in Relationships
IMO. You should bring it up. Talk to him about it. It might not help the situation to him. But it will help you understand what's going on with his sex drive, or lack of. So you can make an educated decision, on if you want to stay with this guy who doesn't want to have sex with you or, leave the relationship and find a guy who want's all of you.
Answer by louise2 at 10:56 AM on Feb. 2, 2009
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Answer by Anonymous at 11:16 AM on Feb. 2, 2009
Answer by JustAMom2008 at 11:58 AM on Feb. 2, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 12:07 PM on Feb. 2, 2009
Sounds like he's in love with you but not in lust with you. If he didn't love you he wouldn't have stopped something that was so enjoyable for him. But giving him that ultimatum wasn't the best idea. He may regret his decision.
Answer by Anonymous at 1:33 PM on Feb. 2, 2009
Do you think he might be in the closet(gay). Some guys are a shamed of it.
Answer by louise2 at 2:22 PM on Feb. 2, 2009
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Answer by ozarkgirl3 at 6:21 PM on Feb. 2, 2009