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For the last few years I have been the caretaker of my sister who now has a serious heart condition ( 2 hearts surgeries so far this year !)
She has 3 children, her oldest 2 live in another state ( where she use to live) with their families, her youngest, a son, who is 20, still lives with us, he has always ha learning problem, and he is what you would call "slow" , he is capable of doing alot but on the othe hand he would probably never be able to live on his own.
He recently met this girl who, she too is what you would call "slow" , she does live on her "own", however it is in an apartment building that is only for people with certain "problems" ...
She has a 2 year old daughter who she believes she is raising, but in fact the father's family has full custody and she is just aloud to spend time with her...
She is still married to that little girls father ( who too, has "problems"), and just a few weeks ago, she talked openly about having a miscarriage by him ...
Now the problem is, she started saying she was pregnant again by my nephew ... wrote it all over facebook, called several of our family memebers to tell them, even called her case manager to tell her about it...
SHe then made a post on facebook about getting ready tocal my sister and tell he about the pregnancy ... I replied with a " maybe you should wait until you find out for sure" ... because she only took a home pregnancy test, and since she just had a miscarriage a few weeks ago, I just thought she should wait until she was 100% before making my sister upset... Well she and several other people got mad at that and was sending me mean messages over this... Also I find it horrible that she would do that, because it would probably be a very small chance that it would be my nephews child, sice they just met 2 weeks ago !!!!!!! I wasnt evn sure you could find out you were pregnant at just 2 weeks ???
Of course she called my sister, my sister was horrified ! and has been in bed ever since..
THEN, today she goes to th doctor and finds out she is NOT pregnant .... and nephew still wants to sta with her, even talking about moving in with her ....
What would you do ?
Also, they both get SSI for their "problems", even if they put that money together, they would barely have $1400 - how can they eventhink of being able to have kids on that, let alone, we knowthey would not be able to raise the baby.... I m almost 70 years old, I can not do it, obviously my sister could not do it and er family has nothing to do with her !!!
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