If you saw a young mom in a bikini, in a photo on facebook ........

First of all I want to say that, I am not someone who has "facebook drama" , in fact until now, I really only used facebook for family who lives far away and old friends to be able to chat and to share photos of my family.

Anyways I recently lost ALOT of weight, and I am very proud of myself. I used to have a big gut and I have worked hard that right now I even have little bit of abs ( when I move a certain way , anyways lol) ....

So during our beach vacation this year, I wore my first ever bikini, and without sounding full of myself, i looked good ( and I dont mean good, as in you can tell I used to be fat and now I squeezed into a little bikini, but that, it looks like I have always worked out) ....

My bikini wasnt really small or anything, the bottoms were more of a tiny, ruffle skirt, and the top was very covered . AND the phono wasnt of me "strutting" or anything, it was me and my husband and our kids, all in our suits, in front of the water...

I got alot of complimetns on it ( even my older, conservative family memebrs, told me i looked nice)....... and then there was my sister in law who will not shut up about how I am so trashy to put that on facebook ... etc, etc, etc.... then she posted a status about how trashy it is for mothers to try and look like a teenager... and I knew she wrote that about me......

Of course I chalked it up to her being jealous ( we were suppose to work out together, but because of her attitude, she quit and gained weight) .... But do you think that is actually trashy ?

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Asked by Anonymous at 1:40 PM on Jul. 12, 2012 in Parenting Debate

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Nope. Not trashy. There are some moms who I am friends with on FB who have posted bikini pics that I thought were trashy. I think it is trashy if it is a photo of just you in a bikini showing off. I think it is trashy if I can almost see nipples or crotch. It sounds like yours wasn't like that at all.

Answer by amber710 at 3:11 PM on Jul. 12, 2012
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Not at all.. you worked hard to get that body so show it off.. yes your sil is jealous if i were you i would delete and block her.. you don't need that in your life.

Answer by mommys2cupcakes at 3:27 PM on Jul. 12, 2012
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YOU GO GIRL LOSING the wight sticking to it congrats! Dont let her sourness get to you it sounds fine to me : )

Answer by supgrl87 at 3:29 PM on Jul. 12, 2012
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congrats on your new body!

by no means do i have room to talk about what is or is not tasteful... but then again as long as you have a positive body image who cares what others think is trashy? and my tit is falling out cause i was just nursing & had not got it back in all the way. i would say you should post more pictures of you in the bikini... moms in bikinis are not trying to be teenagers, its the teenagers in bikinis trying to be moms

Answer by flowersmama at 3:36 PM on Jul. 12, 2012
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i would custom block her...jealous much mom is all........

Answer by jossstone1969 at 4:02 PM on Jul. 12, 2012
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Sounds perfectly acceptable, and classy. It wasn't you in front of the mirror blowing a kiss in your bikini. It was a family photo. And you look great, show if off. If a fatty wants to be jelly, let her be and ignore her comments. Congrats on getting your body in shape. And honestly I see some one more trashy if they have no business wearing a bikini.

Answer by leksismommy at 4:04 PM on Jul. 12, 2012
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If my body wasn't wrecked by children, I would wear a bikini for sure. They are comfortable, and while they can get trashy (the itsy bitsy that barely cover the important stuff), IMO there are PLENTY of bikinis that are tasteful for a mother.

Answer by Mom-2-3-Girlz at 5:49 PM on Jul. 12, 2012
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Your SIL sounds like a jealous twit ... just ignore the cow.

Answer by SpiritedWitch at 10:42 PM on Jul. 12, 2012
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I would find a thong and a barely nipple coverd top trashy....not a nice fitting bikini! You rock it, mama!

Answer by khedy at 12:00 AM on Jul. 13, 2012
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not at all. you worked hard. she is just jealous of your success and that you set out to obtain your goals and you did and you have something to really show for it. most of the time if someone trashes someone else is out of jealousy and being envious. she could of continued to work out with you but did not and the way she makes herself feel better is making you feel bad about yourself on a social network no less. i say good for you mama and keep it up and keep putting those pictures up of all your hard work. you earned that bikini

Answer by lambdarose at 9:38 AM on Jul. 13, 2012
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