I have a 10 1/2 month old who, when he is told 'NO', hits the person speaking to him. Also, when he gets mad or frustrated, he bangs his head and/or mouth on the floor, chair, knee/leg of parent, or coffee table. What can I do to make him stop???Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 1:15 PM on Feb. 2, 2009 in General Parenting
Answer by Anonymous at 1:18 PM on Feb. 2, 2009
Answer by kemclaughlin at 1:21 PM on Feb. 2, 2009
I hold my son's arm for a minute or so down by his side if I can,so that he's unable to use it.And say "No Hitting!Not nice.Ouchy".It's important to say the same thing every time using small words so they understand.Think of it like training a dog.You wouldn't say Checkers, I don't appreciate you being on the sofa.You say Checkers.. off.Same idea.Holding their arm makes it very apparent what it is that you don't like,and there's an immediate consequence to hitting (no use of arm).Hitting them back at a young age doesn't work.They emulate you..Mom hits..so I hit.
Answer by s.teph at 3:11 PM on Feb. 2, 2009
Mine also beats his head on things, and honestly I let him.I figure he's only hurting himself,it's a form of temper tantrum.If he's really in danger of injury then I stop it.But I figure he'll get it eventually.Try walking away,leave the room,I've found that my son stops instantly when he doesn't get attention for it.The only time I really step in is when he's doing to a table that has a sharp corner, or he continuously does and refuses to stop (which isn't often), or for instance when my husband leaves for work, and he is genuinely upset. That is not the baby's fault, and he feels abandoned, so then i step in. But if it's because he did not get what he wants.. sorry charlie. That's the way the cookie crumbles. I have used the "bite them back" technique though.. and honestly that one worked for me. He hasn't bitten me since.
Answer by s.teph at 3:14 PM on Feb. 2, 2009
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