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how do i get him to have sex?

how do i get my husband to have sex with me. i'd be happy with twice a week. now its been a month.... we have sex maybe every other weekend if i'm lucky. i wear sexy nighties, and try with him, but it's like i'm not good enough. he likes to do it alone. (he thinks i don't notice that) any suggestions?

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Asked by Anonymous at 1:21 PM on Feb. 2, 2009 in Relationships

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  • The issue isn't getting him to have sex. The issue is figuring out what's wrong with your relationship...something is wrong because it's gotten to this point, you know? Good luck.

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:22 PM on Feb. 2, 2009

  • How much have you changed? Are you still the same person he married or are you two of you now? He may not be physically attracted to you anymore and rather then cheat he uses his hand.

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:23 PM on Feb. 2, 2009

  • i was a size 0 when we met - i got comfortable, learned to cook, and gained weight, now i go to the gym and eat well, i lost the weight.i'm comfortable with me. i'm a size 2. he says i'm beautiful. i am more secure now - i was very insecure and in therapy when we met. but that was 6 years ago. we have only been married for a year.

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:30 PM on Feb. 2, 2009

  • maybe you both need to go to therapy?

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:18 PM on Feb. 2, 2009

  • People get harsh on here! Lots of men (unlike popular belief) have lower sex drives than their partner. And, when any little thing is bothering him, that decreases his desire for sex. He could be stressed about work or even feeling a little down about himself (if hes put on weight or is loosing hair, etc) It porbably has nothing to do with you. And as for him taking care of himself...well, thats a whole different category for men. They don't even count it. A lot of them do it as stress relief or to just sleep better afterwards. Maybe see if hes stressed out, and include some destressing things into the sex (massage, etc)

    Answer by ozarkgirl3 at 4:18 PM on Feb. 2, 2009

  • try to talk about all the issues. if you get no response get your self a toy and use it while hes there, he will notice that your needs are not being met then...

    Answer by pammd at 5:28 PM on Feb. 2, 2009

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