Dealing with "estranged" sister

So ion going to my younger sisters baby shower tomorrow and my older sister is going to be there as well. I have only seen her maybe 3 times over the last 6 and a half years since our mother died. She still maintains a good relationship with all my other siblings except me. I know communication is a two way street, but on my end I would just rather never see her and be just fine with that. She has not been an active member in my children's lives and I have not been in her children's lives either. I just don't want to deal with her. She's been mean and snotty to me basically my while life and I can count the nice times with her on one hand. If it wasn't for supporting my little sister I wouldn't even go! But even though I do nt really care to see older sister I am still nervous about not seeing her for so long and then having to see her. So how should I approach this? It's just gonna be family there, so should I talk to her or just ignore her? How do I just get through the day without being pissed off the whole time? Have you dealt with something similar? Advice ...help please!!

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Asked by Sunshynsammi at 1:01 AM on Jul. 14, 2012 in Relationships

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Just be polite, honestly the day isn't about either of you. Say your hellos and if she seems to try and reach out by all means talk to her. You ont have to be best friends.

Answer by Mrs_Harsh at 1:05 AM on Jul. 14, 2012
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Just play nice for your little sister

Answer by mommys2cupcakes at 1:10 AM on Jul. 14, 2012
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Plaster on a smile and be as friendly as you can be without committing to more contact with her. I have a sister like that. I am nice to her face, but I do not go out of my way to see her. I actually sometimes avoid her when she is in town. It is the best thing for my sanity and the best thing to keep my family from fighting.

Answer by SleepingBeautee at 1:24 AM on Jul. 14, 2012
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Your family is going to be there. This is a happy family time for your sister. I do not know how many will be at this shower but surely you can say hello and how are you , nice to see yous and mingle with others. I hardly think she is going to corner you to be meant to you. Concentrate on your sister and if your other sister should happen to say something develope selective hearing and go on.
If you can't do that then don''t go

Answer by Dardenella at 3:53 AM on Jul. 14, 2012
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Just play nice ... focus on the guest of honor. If your other sister speaks to you, be polite. You never know, she could be just as nervous about seeing you as well. Maybe this is the opportunity you guys need to patch things up.

Answer by SpiritedWitch at 7:38 AM on Jul. 14, 2012
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