I hit my little girl...now what?

This morning me and my two girls were playing on the bed. My oldest who is almost 4 ran up and punched me in the throat, instantly my hand flew and caught her in the face. It was red but it cleared up. I apologized kissed it better a lot and asked her to kiss my throat better. I have lost my temper before, but not often and I am against abuse and taking too far. It makes me feel like a bad parent and that if I share my concerns even with a therapist, they could be taken away. What do people do when they do things like that out of pure reaction.

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Asked by TryorTrynot at 1:44 PM on Jul. 14, 2012 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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It was a reaction not a desire to hurt. Big difference. You id what you needed to do you appologized and kissed her and showed her that she too needed to kiss it and apologize.
You will get lots of hits and bumps and bruises because of your kids. Most you will just say ouch and go on. There are some that take you so by surprize that the reaction to "save yourself" kicks in. Forgive yourself.

Answer by Dardenella at 2:11 PM on Jul. 14, 2012
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This situation should serve to make you aware of what may happen in the future.

It's important to focus, while playing, on what may happen so that you can catch yourself. I think we've probably all done something similar at some point.

Answer by BrawnwynII at 1:57 PM on Jul. 14, 2012
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was it
an overreaction
or
a gutt reaction

big difference

Answer by fiatpax at 2:53 PM on Jul. 14, 2012
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Were you just bringing your hand up in reaction or was it in anger? If it was in anger, it sounds like you need some help with that.

Answer by Kword at 1:54 PM on Jul. 14, 2012
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^^^ agree totally with Brawn.

Answer by m-avi at 2:01 PM on Jul. 14, 2012
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It sounds to me like it was a reaction. It also sounds like you feel terrible about it and didn't mean to do it. I agree with Mommy102110 that it will serve to make you more aware.

Answer by Kword at 2:02 PM on Jul. 14, 2012
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I meant agree with Brawn*

Answer by Kword at 2:02 PM on Jul. 14, 2012
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Thank you all for being understanding. I think I have decided to go back to therapy (I have had anxiety and depression) but it is nice to know that I'm not the only one who has hurt their child out of blind overreaction. Perhaps journal writing or something will help too?

Comment by TryorTrynot (original poster) at 2:11 PM on Jul. 14, 2012
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You didn't mean too.. it was a reaction..

Answer by mommys2cupcakes at 2:50 PM on Jul. 14, 2012
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Cafe Robin wrote at 1:44 PM on Jul. 14 , 2012

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Answer by meooma at 5:02 PM on Jul. 14, 2012
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