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We've been separated for over a year. In that time, we've both seen other people. We've recently started trying to repair our relationship and it seems to be going smoothly, but I understand that these things take time and that it may not be reparable. He was honest with me about a woman he's been dating for a while during our separation who claims to understand if he wants to get back with me but simultaneously wishes she could still have him as well. I just found out yesterday that I am pregnant. I know it is not his because he and I only started having sex again on Wednesday of last week and that is too soon for a BFP on an $0.88 test from Wal-Mart. The last time I had sex before him was with a guy I broke up with back in April. I know the exact date was April 15. I have gallstones, a hiatal hernia, IBS, ulcers, high blood pressure, chronic migraines, numerous ovarian cysts and endometriosis. I figured that with the sporadic bleeding I've had over the last year, including between April and now, that I probably couldn't have gotten pregnant which is why I had waited so long to test. The conditions I have cause symptoms similar to pregnancy, so I kept convincing myself it was not possible. The reason I chose to test yesterday was so I would know for sure since I did just start having sex with my husband again and didn't want to find out I was pregnant a few weeks from now and assume it was his and having him thinking I had done that deliberately. But now I'm worried. When I tell him about the pregnancy he may decide he does not want me back. He may try to encourage me to abort or give the baby up which are both things I could not do. He and I have two children together already. I know I messed up by not being as careful as possible at preventing a pregnancy, and probably should have simply abstained from any sexual activity, but it is too late for the "you should have" statements. The guy I dated is already in a new relationship and very happy; he has no desire to be part of any child's life according to conversations we had during the time we dated (part of why we broke up; he'd never have been good for my existing children). My husband wants to be in mine and our two children's lives but I don't know how this new information will affect that. Yes, I do plan on telling him...just needing advice...Answer Question
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