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A little back story, my 4yr old SS had his first visitation with his BM last Saturday. That was the first time he had seen her in over 3 years, so basically he met a stranger. I took some advice and explained to him that some kids are special and they get 2 mommies or 2 daddies and he was lucky and he got 2 mommies. I am not sure he completely understood but I didn't want him to go meet her not knowing why or anything like that. This was really hard on me and SO, I am unsure of how this will impact my relationship with him, he calls me mom, I am the one that has taken care of him for the past 2 1/2 years, I am all he knows. My SO is completely against my SS getting to know his BM because he is scared that she will just end up abandoning him again and that we will have to pick up all the pieces again and help him trust people again, which I understand. But I think she deserves a chance to prove that she has changed! We fight about this a lot.
Well back to the visit. I think it went ok. She did not try to push herself on him or anything like that (I am the one that has to supervise the visits), but at the same time she really didn't try to talk to him that much either. I am not sure if that is a good thing or bad. She only talked to him a couple times in 2 hours, mainly she asked me about what his likes and dislikes were, what size clothes he wore, if he needed anything and things like that. But I am still a little uneasy about this, she seems nice and like she is trying, but how do I know if that is just because she is being supervised or if she genuinely what to start a relationship with him again? I am just nervous that he will get hurt by her again, in all honesty, but I don't want to keep him from her either! I think I am doing the right thing. I just don't know and it is killing me!
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