Underage marriage

I would say no, too. There is no reason to rush the issue and get married so young. If they truly love each other enough to get married, they will still feel that way when they are of legal age. Plus, this whole "I want to be an adult, but I want you to take care of me like I'm a kid" thing just doesn't fly. It's one thing if she's actually dying on the streets unless you take her in. It's a different thing if kiddo wants to play adult without being ready to accept the consequences. Once she's an adult, you can advise her but it is her choice and her life (and her consequences). Until then, I see no reason for you to indulge her. This isn't about not loving or accepting your daughter - it's about not being a sucker who allows your kid to make decisions she can't handle. Stick to it mama!

If her and her boyfriend are so in love then she can be patient and wait till she is 18 when she can sign for herself. Ask her whats the rush? And then tell her by the time she is 18 and that is what she really wants tell her you don't approve but you won't put her down for it. Then maybe get into the discussion about marriage and ask her a bunch of what if type questions. Such as what if you two dont end up working out whats your plan then? Tell her you two have not lived together there are certain things you may not know about him that you may not like when you do get married and what then? Everyone ignores everyone's flaws when you first marry then after a few years or sometimes even after a year those things you once loved or once ignored about that person can sometimes become very irritating. Ask her what there plans are financially ask if they have a plan. Give her alot to think about between now and then:)

Anyway, I am done with trying to get you to see common sense. You are a brick wall and you are in for a nasty, rude awaking.

Are you really that naive? I mean, do you HONESTLY believe that nothing bad can ever happen to those who are "financially capable"?? Really???

People who were considered "financially capable" have lost their jobs and went through their savings just trying to stay afloat while trying to get another job. Their homes have been taken from them but apparently if they were part of your family, you would just tell them to "fuck off and go live under a bridge".

I don't care how well you plan, shit happens beyond your control. I didn't plan on my son dying at the age of 22. I planned on him maybe going to college, getting married and having kids. I didn't plan on my husband getting a spinal tumor that disabled him for life. I planned on us being able to go on more trips once the boy was out of the house.

Life has a way of laughing at your plans and making you look like a fool.

I'm going to ask this one more time .... What if something happens that is beyond their control and they have no where to go? Will you still turn them away just because you are petty and pissed she didn't follow what YOU planned out for HER LIFE??? What if there are children? Still turning your back on them? I'm guessing the answer is "yes".

I understand that you don't want her to get married until you think she is old enough but that's not really your decision. You can only control that until she turns 18 and honestly, based on the responses you've given here, I sincerely hope she walks out your door and never looks back.

One final thing ... I am not saying support them financially. I am saying be a mother and support her EMOTIONALLY.

BTW ... you could always charge them rent and utilities for staying there. Wouldn't that be better than driving a wedge between you and your daughter?

I want to ask you to think about something. How would you like to be told that if you didn't follow the plan that someone else laid out for your life they would not be there for you because you made your own choices?

What if she were to die while you are being such a bitch? Would you regret the way you treated her? There would be no making up for treating her badly. Trust me ... you don't want to find out how that feels. You DO NOT want to have an ache to apologize for being a bitch to your child and not be able to hug them and ask for forgiveness.