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My 16 year old daughter thinks that now she turned 16 her curfew should be midnight because thats all her friends curfews I told her I don't care what all her friends are doing if she is living under my roof she is going to follow my rules. I'm not really strict on her I just have rules. I am a single mother and raised my daughter alone.
She hasn't given me much problems until she turned 16. My rules that I simply expect her to follow is she comes home straight from school and complete your homework (education is super important to me) And eat dinner as a family then she is able to go out but she has to be in at 8:30 on school nights weekends are I allow her to stay out until 10:30, 11 on special occasions. I just think the world we live in is dangerous. Is this to strict?
Asked by Anonymous at 8:06 PM on Jul. 17, 2012 in Teens (13-17)
Answer by older at 8:08 PM on Jul. 17, 2012
Answer by wendythewriter at 8:09 PM on Jul. 17, 2012
Answer by wendythewriter at 8:10 PM on Jul. 17, 2012
Yes, it is a dangerous place, but we have to allow them to be out with friends & learn to navigate the world. We can't shelter them forever. (& Yes I do have a dau! lol) I think that since she's 16, I would allow her to be out until 11pm on weeknights in the summer & Midnight on weekends all year. Up it to 9pm on school nights for next year. If she doesn't handle the responsibility of a later curfew, then dial it back to the way things were. Let her prove to you that she is growing up & can be mature enough to deserve a later curfew.
Answer by mrsmom110 at 8:12 PM on Jul. 17, 2012
Answer by kimigogo at 8:14 PM on Jul. 17, 2012
Answer by feralxat at 8:16 PM on Jul. 17, 2012
OP: I understand your concerns, but there are creeps out there who prey on all kinds of people. Teens are not exclusive victims of crime. I'm just saying if she's earned it, & your trust, allowing an extra 1/2 hour or so to the curfew isn't being unreasonable. However, if she's hanging w/ the wrong crowd, drinking, smoking, etc., then I'd say she hasn't earned the right to stay out later. Obviously you know her best. Just try not to be too non-negotiable on her requests, or she could rebel.
Answer by mrsmom110 at 8:25 PM on Jul. 17, 2012
Answer by okmanders at 8:38 PM on Jul. 17, 2012