Why do people not RSVP to a party?

why would there be no party?
I have parties at home and 9 times out of 10 if I invite 20 kids 2-3 RSVP and atleast 10 show up all together

I don't know why people are so rude, I just gave a large baby shower, and half of the people didn't let me know one way or the other if they were coming, and how many they would be bringing. Only 26 people RSVP'd, if I'd only gotten supplies for the 26 people that came I'd have been way short there were 50 people that showed up!!! Luckily, I just went ahead and made a ton of food...but what happens when you spend all that money on food, goodie bags for children, favors for adults, etc., and then they don't show up??

It's very rude to not RSVP in my opinion.

ohwrite ( I only do goodie bags for the ones that rsvp) I have treasure box with stuff in it for the ones that didnt. seems rude but what is rude is not rsvp'ing when asked to. I budget according to the ones that tell me they are coming. Of course if the rsvp late then I run out and get extra.

Rudeness, plain & simple. If you have their numbers, I'd call the parents and ask if they plan on attending.

It seems to be the norm and it is rude. Time, money, etc go into planning parties.

I agree with what you're saying luvmygrandbaby, but I just can't bring myself to let children feel bad because their parents are rude.

One year, for one of my sons birthdays, I made custom goody bags for all of the kids. I made them out of canvas, and embroidered each child's name on the bag. The embroidery alone took more than an hour per bag. I did make extra bags, but those kids whose parents hadn't RSVP'd didn't get their names put on the bags. It was just too much extra work if they didn't show up.

And again, you still have to have enough food and drinks. If it's just a difference of a couple of people it's not a big deal, but my party on Sunday was a difference of more than 20 people!!

ah, I see-kinda of figured that BUT didnt want to assume anything.
I would call if you have numbers, there have been times I didnt respond on time either due to forgetting so I would call adn ask if we could still attend ( my fault so a no would have been alright) it is possible they forgot and feel its too late to reply unless the reply date has not passed.

ohwrite, I did it one one one,as the children were walking out the door so no one really knew that one child got this and the other didnt. That way I didnt feel like a jerk, and really the treasure chest stuff is better than a treat bag imo- lol
I totally get feeling bad for the kids

Do you have their phone #'s? I guess I would call to find out whether they're coming or not. After that you can decide what Plan B will be. GL! :)