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Teen Sex
Watching an episode of TABOO on teen sex ... a few questions came to mind.
What do you think of Purity Balls? Generally these are for girls only. Shouldn't there be purity pledge for the boys as well? If you don't know what it is, it is where girls, normally with their fathers, openly pledge to remain virgins until they marry. Usually has a religious connection.
What do you think about a "love hut"? In Cambodia, the father will build the daughter(s) a "love hut" so they can "try out" boys before getting choosing the one they want to be married to. One girl they spoke with has had her hut since the age of 13. One girl said that they could tell when a boy had watched porn movies and that he would not be considered worthy.
Why is sex considered such a taboo? Especially when talking to children. Shouldn't we be more open with our children when it comes to sex?
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I think the US needs to stop making sex taboo because that is part of the reason teens experiment. The teen pregnancy rate in European countries is LOWER than in the US but they have MORE teens having sex. Sex is not taboo in European countries. It's past time for the US to start thinking on those lines. Preaching abstinence is not working. Educating our kids is a must, it doesn't mean we condone teens having sex but that we want our children educated and protected IF they chose to have sex.Found an answer to your question?
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My feeling is that children shouldn't be having sex because they are not ready to care for a baby and are not able to emotionally make the choice of whether they are having sex to feel good or for an emotional connection (not that I think either is wrong as an adult when you are more aware of the emotional and physical implications of making these decisions).
My children are young and know what sex is, ask questions about it, I don't shelter them from it, I won't make them promise to wait until marriage...BUT they also know that I expect them to wait until they are able to raise a baby and think clearly for themselves. I expect that they will consider what they want from their partner, I expect they will know their partner well, and that it won't be a "one night" deal.Found an answer to your question?
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I don't think we should be THAT open, because here in America it is ideal to wait until you graduate high school, graduate coege, find a job and someone you love before you have babies. Not saying as humans we should only have sex to procreate but, here in America, most teens aren't mature enough to know the difference between sex for pleasure, sex for love, and sex for procreation.Found an answer to your question?
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I personally think purity balls are creepy. I think it's so important to talk about sex and especially birth control and preventing STDs with kids from an early age. I don't automatically think sex=caring for a baby, because I don't think people should have children until they want them. Certainly we are able to have sex for pleasure and preventing pregnancy is not rocket science.Found an answer to your question?
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Teen sex has been happening since the beginning of time, and although none of us want or like the idea of our teens having sex, the reality of it is that many teens do have sex. I think as moms, all we can do is talk talk talk and hopefully our kids will be educated and prepared if they choose to take that step. And once our teens do become sexually active, we can only hope and pray that they are being safe and responsbible and in a loving and committed relationship. Making sex taboo, is sending the wrong message.Found an answer to your question?
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I watched something on that once. Most of the girls end up having premarital sex anyways. I have never heard of the love hut thing.Found an answer to your question?
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There is no "magic age" the maturity comes with growth and experience which few have before adulthood.(and nope, not all have jt by then either.) I fully believe in sex talks and preparedness, but building "love huts" I will leave to the Cambodians.Found an answer to your question?
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I just watched that too.....the ball is a good idea but I don't think it will stop them from having sex ,the hut ya it works there but I don't think something like that us good for here.I was not thinking about sex at that ageFound an answer to your question?
Answer by Anonymous at 11:51 AM on Jul. 21, 2012
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"most teens aren't mature enough to know the difference between sex for pleasure, sex for love, and sex for procreation." [maecntpntz]
And adults are? What is the "magic" age for receiving that knowledge?
Why do we, in the US, coddle our teens? How is this good for them?
Comment by SpiritedWitch (original poster) at 12:19 PM on Jul. 21, 2012
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