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my step daughter is very clingy and wants a lot of personal attention, we don't see her as much as we'd like but even when we do she acts like she is starved for attention, does that mean she is not getting enough attention from her mother and step dad that she lives with parents?

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Asked by marisad at 11:47 PM on Feb. 2, 2009 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • no not exactly maybe tho but she may just miss you guys and all depending how old she is maybe u should ask her if there is things happening at home

    Answer by josalin at 12:04 AM on Feb. 3, 2009

  • It could mean that, but there are other possibilities. Have you talked to her about how things are at her primary home? She might be able to provide you with the answers, without even realizing it.

    Answer by indigostone at 12:04 AM on Feb. 3, 2009

  • She probably misses you! My daughter only sees her father and stepmom every other weekend, (if they bother to call and get her), and he makes her play with the other kids upstairs or in a different room when she is there. Needless to say, she tries to get him to pay attention to her, and is accused of 'attention grabbing'.

    She also may be used to being the CENTER of attention at her primary home and may not be in your home.

    Answer by lovinangels at 1:49 AM on Feb. 3, 2009

  • It's hard to say. It could be that she is starved for attention. Or it could be that she enjoys being the center of attention there and wants the same thing at your place. It could have nothing to do with amount of attention and more about trying to find comfort from the changes that have happened- insecurity. I'd be inclined to give her a lot of loving attention as well as encouraging her to be more independent by having activities that she can do on her own.

    Answer by Bmat at 2:16 PM on Feb. 3, 2009

  • Maybe it is because she doesn't see you as much....I think if you give her as much attention as possible she will need less and less!

    Answer by BJoan at 8:46 AM on Feb. 4, 2009

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