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My mom is considering separating from my stepdad because the "spark is gone," or rather the "spark was never really there." They've been married 10 years and together 12 and the first 2 years were the best years and after that things went down hill. Even being young I saw that happening.
They barely touch each other anymore...its' been a steady decline for years but now it's come down to kissing goodbye and an awkward hug here and there.
They don't communicate. She tells him her issues with him...1. the fact that they don't really talk 2. the fact that they just don't seem to connect 3. the fact that they rarely get intimate! and he listens but just says "yeah I know" and doesn't elaborate and she told him finally that she "was not happy" and that she's been talking to another man a lot lately because she isn't getting what she needs from him on the emotional level and HE'S OKAY WTIH THAT.
Well, she confided in me today that after the first few years of their marriage they stopped having sex! They have had sex once every 3-4 years this whole time. He doesn't even try to have sex with her and she's not a very aggressive woman so she's let it go but she's even brought it up to him and again he says "yeah I know" or "IT's been that long" but still doesn't do anything about it. The last time they did was 4 months ago...after 3 years of waiting and she described the experience as an "awkward first date."
What on God's green Earth is going on with him?? He has tried in his own way to help...got her a card and wrote her a long letter but aside from that he just doesn't go the extra mile. He knows what she needs but he just doesn't do it. But at the same time he seems to not want to let her go.
Any ideas? I'm especially wondering how a man could not want to have sex...my mom is an attractive woman so that's not the problem. He doesn't really have much time for an affair as he works nights and his paychecks match the hours he says he works and he just doesn't give me the cheating vibe. I just don't get what's up with him...
Asked by Anonymous at 10:50 PM on Jul. 22, 2012 in Relationships
Answer by m-avi at 11:01 PM on Jul. 22, 2012
Answer by dullscissors at 11:45 PM on Jul. 22, 2012
Answer by Mom-2-3-Girlz at 12:07 AM on Jul. 23, 2012
Answer by jazmya_mom at 5:28 AM on Jul. 23, 2012
Answer by winterglow at 6:37 AM on Jul. 23, 2012
Answer by Watch_me_burn at 10:13 AM on Jul. 23, 2012
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