My daughter is the youngest of three, age 22. She struggled with ADHD and a learning disability in school, so I think my enabling began there. Now I excuse her inability to find a job based on her dismal school experience. If school is the only "job" you've ever had and you sucked at it, how could a paying job be any different? That's what I always think to myself. Getting her to talk about it doesn't help because I've tried. My other two daughters had no problems in school and they eased into adulthood with no problems, but this last one has me stumped. Any suggestions please? I would so appreciate the help.
Answer by hibbingmom at 12:47 PM on Jul. 24, 2012
Have her do some volunteer work to get experience.
Answer by DJDNY at 12:53 PM on Jul. 24, 2012
Well, ADHD is never an excuse. It's an obstacle to overcome. My middle son has ADHD, & still managed to graduate 3rd in his class w/ a 4.4 GPA. My oldest son who has developmental & lang. delays, still managed to graduate w/ a "B" avg. & has had a part time job for over 2 yrs now. She is capable & you need to be her cheerleader & her supporter, but not her enabler. It's a difficult economy right now, but it can be done. She can go back to learn a trade, or get an assoc. or BA degree. She get do an internship, or volunteer to get her foot in the door. Start w/ a pt position if that's all that's available. She may need you to push her in the right direction tho. Get those protective arms of yours ready for the shove! GL! :)
Answer by mrsmom110 at 1:02 PM on Jul. 24, 2012
Answer by hibbingmom at 1:05 PM on Jul. 24, 2012
Answer by wendythewriter at 1:12 PM on Jul. 24, 2012
Answer by Dardenella at 1:31 PM on Jul. 24, 2012
Answer by louise2 at 1:54 PM on Jul. 24, 2012
I don't know if you want to start off by punishing her & taking her phone away. Unless she is not paying for her phone, in which case, earning her own money to pay for it may be motivation. But she will need a phone to contact potential employers. Obviously you know your dau best & what will motivate her, so all the best in pulling her out of her slump. :)
Answer by mrsmom110 at 6:20 PM on Jul. 24, 2012
Answer by GlitteribonMom at 3:53 PM on Jul. 27, 2012