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How do you deal with a special needs 3yo?

I babysit a 3yo boy that has some sort of delay, hasn't been diagnosed yet, his evaluation is next week, but there is something going on. His speech is very far behind, didn't say his first word until 18 mos. He has a very very hard time maintaining eye contact, still plays alongside rather than with the other kids. There are quite a few things that he isn't up to par with. Mostly I am wondering if anyone has any ideas on how to get him to understand appropriate vs. inappropriate behavior and that no means no. Any help would be awesome, his parents haven't found anything that works, either.

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Asked by rhianna1708 at 4:31 PM on Jul. 26, 2012 in General Parenting

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  • just like any other three year old- just expect it to take longer to 'click'.
    Do not force him to make eye contact when he is upset but encourage him to look in your direction.
    Use time out- 1 minute per year of age
    And constant reminders. Visual ones if you can.
    read lots of books that pertain to the behavior and read them often you want to see and talk about the text to life connections. 'We have to play nicely with others just like(insert character here) in (insert book title here)

    Answer by But_Mommie at 4:54 PM on Jul. 26, 2012

  • also try using a visual warnings and rewards like a sticker chart or a chalk board with warning marks on it. Also visual timers are a good thing to have handy for things like time outs and picking up toys... or even turn taking. The timer could become your best friend.

    Answer by But_Mommie at 4:56 PM on Jul. 26, 2012

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    Answer by sarasmommy777 at 5:09 PM on Jul. 26, 2012

  • Sounds like it might be autism. Visual cues will help alot. Google PECS system. ( Picture Exchange Communication) As far as behaviors it's pretty much the same. Redirect bad behavior into acceptable behavior and reward compliance. Until you get an official diagnosis it's hard to say what might be most effective.

    Answer by 2autisticsmom at 7:11 PM on Jul. 26, 2012

  • I agree with autism but his hearing also needs to be checked. My nephew had a constant ear infection and it caused him to become delayed and his speech was delayed also because he could not hear others. If it is autism, you and the parents will have to work together to developed a system to help him learn in a way he's able too. Normally children with autism ( as all kids) like to remain on a certain daily schedule and become upset when it is not followed. They need to know what is expected of them, then you can taylor it to their level. A PECS system is great kids,like others suggested. They cannot tolerate lots of outside stimulus without becoming overwhelmed. They might want to enroll him in a special needs morning program ( most can start at 3) to help jumpstart his learning and get information needed to see how to best teach him. He will needs lots of patience and love.:)

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:28 PM on Jul. 26, 2012

  • You just treat him the same as you would a standard 3 year old but use much more patience and be prepared to repeat everything much more often.

    Answer by winterglow at 3:57 AM on Jul. 27, 2012

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