I am sooo MAD!

Why don't you and the kids just go? Or you can go and just use the kids as an excuse as to why your husband didn't go.

So why won't he go to these functions at your work?  What's his excuse? I'd remind him that a relationship is a 2 way street, and that you need to do things for each other.  Even when you'd rather being doing something else.  It's what family does for each other!  If he still won't go, make him stay home w/ the kids & go have a good time without him! :)

Go by yourself.

This is a very common issue. It can work out in many ways. With my parents, my dad never wanted to go out but my mom did. Divorced. With my husband and me, I rarely want to go out and so does my husband but when one of us wants to go somewhere the other doesn't we usually talk it out and if he/I really want the me/him to go, he/I will. But if we don't care, we use the kids as an excuse. I bend over backwards to make sure he knows I WILL go if he wants me to, because of my parent's. I try to learn from others mistakes. Or you can just accept him for the person that he is, a person who just doesn't want to socialize as much as you do and learn to live with it. You can't make him change but you can.

So go and have a good time without him.
Tell him that if he doesn't go he gets the kids, if not you'll find a sitter, and then give him some, um, extra incentives.

You should go alone. And you should not make excuses for his not being there. Just say, "He chose not to come." I see this as a control mechanism. He doesn't want to go and he doesn't want you to go either. It's fine for him to choose to stay home, but it's not fine for him to choose for you. There's no need for you to allow yourself to be angry about it when you have the power to choose to go. You don't have to even be ugly about it. Just tell him you've given this a lot of thought, you understand his position, but this is something that is very important to you and that you are going. You are not asking his permission to go--it's just a simple statement of fact. Then you ask him if he's willing to watch the children or if you need to get somebody else to watch them. Whatever his answer is, that's what you go with. There's no need for further discussion and certainly no need for an argument.

Just go & make your DH watch the kids.

Its on a Friday night and my momha the boys sleep over on Fridays. And I want him to come, that is the point of me getting mad I don't want to go and have a good time by myself. I will have a better time if he is there with me.

But you cannot make him go. So you only have two choices: go by yourself or stay home. If you go by yourself, you may just have more fun that if you had to be in the company of a sourpuss who didn't want to be there to begin with. If you stay home, you will have missed the whole thing and have zero fun, and you will once again have allowed yourself to be controlled by someone who doesn't care enough to go to a place with you which he knows you want to go. To me, it's an absolute no brainer. And the boys are already taken care of. Bonus!! And if he sees you will go without him, he just might have a change of heart. If it were me, I'd be thinking about what to wear.