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I have a son about to turn 18 in a few days. He is a senior in high school and has always been very stubborn and challenging. Lately he has acted very disrespectful, mouthing off and talking to me like he owns the place, using foul language, saying he is 18 now and can do whatever he feels like. I accidently picked up the phone line at our house to call someone not knowing he was already talking, and he yells for me to get off the phone. I didn't even have a chance to apologize. But excuse me, who pays the phone bill?!! I believe in mutual respect and him following the rules until he moves out . How do I let him know this behavior won't be tolerated (yes, I told him and also grounded him from the phone) ? That doesn't seem to phase him . He still has another year of school and then will join the military. He is setting a bad example for his little brother too. He and his father do not get along so I try not to involve his dad unless it is very necessary because that only escalates the behavior.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 2:18 PM on Aug. 2, 2012 in Teens (13-17)
Answer by Crafty26 at 2:24 PM on Aug. 2, 2012
I have no idea. My kids aren't that age. I hope someone has some good suggestions. As for what I would do if I were to have a 17 Y.O. now acting like that (easy for me to say because I don't), I would probably remove the phones and other things I deem privileges and let him earn them back by showing respect for what he has and all you do for him. I don't know if that's realistic or not, but that would be my first thought.
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Answer by Farmlady09 at 2:48 PM on Aug. 2, 2012
Time to start treating him like an adult. Adults pay bills. He is not acting right take all his privileges away. Make him get a job. I would tell him "you are not grown tell you finish high school". If you pay for a cell phone for him. Take it away, computer/Internet take it, if he has a tv in his room with cable/satellite take it. When he asks why you did that. "Because you are and adult now. Buy and pay for it all your self". About the house phone. Tell him from now on when I need or have to use the phone and your on it, you will get off it or I will hang up on you. I have already been though this with my DD's. I told them go buy my rules or move out, sense you are and adult now. Make him get a job and pay you rent.
Answer by louise2 at 3:05 PM on Aug. 2, 2012