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WILL MY HEART EVER STOP HURTING?

Tomorrow Saturday August 4th,my mom died on that day in 1997. I was driving home today and,I started crying uncontrollably. My mom was the best. I loved her and still do with my whole heart. I don't know who made up the saying,it gets better with time. It does not. I am sad today and every year around this time,it is really hard for me. I miss her so much!!!! I don't care how old you are please cherish your mom and your dad. I am glad I told her I loved her every day! I'm sorry,I am crying again.Read my dedication to my mom in the answers section of this post.

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dancer

Asked by dancer at 12:54 PM on Aug. 3, 2012 in Relationships

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  • I do not know what it is like to lose a parent but I can only imagine. I love my parents ssooo sooo so o much. I am so sorry you have suffered this loss I dont think it will ever go away I do hope that it stops hurting as much. I am happy you got to enjoy your time with her some ppl dont realize what they had until it is gone.
    supgrl87

    Answer by supgrl87 at 12:57 PM on Aug. 3, 2012

  • No,not totally
    I still get choked up over losing my daughter 12 years ago.
    As long as the grief is not taking over your life,it's healthy to cry
    (((hugs)))
    butterflyblue19

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 12:58 PM on Aug. 3, 2012

  • We never get over profound loss like that, we just get through it. Think of the wonderful things your mother brought to your life and how you are passing that to your kids. Think of how proud she would be of you. If we didn't love so deep, it wouldn't hurt so bad. Not everyone is lucky enough to have that profound of a relationship with their loved ones. Hugs to you during this difficult time.
    QuinnMae

    Answer by QuinnMae at 12:58 PM on Aug. 3, 2012

  • It will still hurt but less often and less intenssly.
    Dardenella

    Answer by Dardenella at 12:58 PM on Aug. 3, 2012

  • butterflyblue19-I too lost a child,I miscarried due to violence at the hands of my ex-husband.
    dancer

    Comment by dancer (original poster) at 1:01 PM on Aug. 3, 2012

  • my grandmother died in 1999 and i still get really upset about but it seems to become less and less
    tigger3itch

    Answer by tigger3itch at 1:01 PM on Aug. 3, 2012

  • ((((HUGS)))) just spend the day tomorrow remembering all the wonderful times you had with your mom, it will help to ease the pain.
    DreainCO

    Answer by DreainCO at 1:03 PM on Aug. 3, 2012

  • Hugs to you.
    texasgurl33

    Answer by texasgurl33 at 1:05 PM on Aug. 3, 2012

  • Some day it will. My gramma died in 1996. She was the first mom figure I knew. There are days when it hurts like hell that she's gone. There are other days when I only think of her a few times a day. There are SO many things I want to share with her about my life, I was only a sophomore in high school when she died. Time does NOT heal, it just makes the pain dull around the edges and bearable.
    Rosehawk

    Answer by Rosehawk at 1:08 PM on Aug. 3, 2012

  • IMO, and I know it is kind of a warped, possibly psychologically improper opinion...to me grief has almost felt like a tribute to the person who has passed. I guess to me it felt like if I let go of the hurt, I was letting go of their memory and becoming "okay" with the fact they were gone. I would feel bad if I didn't feel bad I guess...if that makes any sense at all. If you're breaking down on her birthday or mother's day, or other times when you miss her most, I would say it is totally normal. If it is consuming your whole life, then it might be time to see someone.
    Mom-2-3-Girlz

    Answer by Mom-2-3-Girlz at 1:21 PM on Aug. 3, 2012

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