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My hubby and I have been married for a little over a year. He is definitely the bread winner of the family and his salary pays for a majority of our bills and other things. I work as a parapro in an elementary school while I'm waiting to get a regular teaching position. My pay at this job is really sad but in this job market its really the best way to get my foot in the door somewhere. Anyhoo...my paycheck is usually eaten up by my student loan payment and daycare. I only get paid once a month and usually after the first week after being paid my check is gone from those two expenses and maybe filling my car up with gas.
My issue...my husband refuses to get a joint checking account. I have my own and he has his. Anytime I need to go to the store, get gas, pay a bill, or whatever I have to ask him for money. He usually doesn't complain about giving me the money, but I feel like I'm 12 years old asking my parents for spending money. I've told him how I feel about the situation but he says that he doesn't feel like he'd be able to keep up with how much money he had if I had access to his checking account. I explained to him that in this day and age their is this magical thing called the internet where he could check his balances. I would also make sure to write anything I spent down in a ledger. Should I feel offended that he doesn't trust me enough to share an account with me? The biggest problem for me is that I feel so guilty when I ask him for money with the situation like it is. Should I really push the issue to get a joint account or should I just drop it?
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