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My MIL has totally taken over my sons 1st bday party. I am not sure if I mad both mad and happy about this. Happy because I do not have to do anything at all.Just go and injoy. Mad because I have told her over and over I wanted to do his 1st party. She always says something like "What ever my grandbaby wants my grandbaby will get" I have tried telling her he does nit know what he wants. Right now he is only 8 months. The one she is having will be 10 times biger then anything I will be able to be and she is having my family to. She wants us all to be one big family. That would be nice but as country as I am my family is not and hers is. My parents got deversed when I was grow and moved out and DH Parents was diversed before he was born. She only has one son and i married him. We only have one baby and are not having any more. She does this kind of stuff all the time. I do not thank she is trying to be mean I just thank she has this idea that her family and my family can come together. I know my mom and dad can not be in the same room. and I and not sure DH dads wife and her could get ok in the same room.
Do I just let her just have her party and sit back and injoy?
Do I put a stop to her having a big party?
Do I just help her with hers so I am still doing a party? Even if it is not idea.
If I help with hers do I need to help her pay for it?
Do I just need to go ahead with mine?
Or do I just do one for the dads sides?
Answer by feralxat at 8:50 AM on Aug. 7, 2012
>Do I just let her just have her party and sit back and injoy?< ENjoy. And yes.
>Do I put a stop to her having a big party?< No.
>Do I just help her with hers so I am still doing a party? < Your choice. Since you know about the grandparent problem, I'd do a separate party and explain plainly WHY.
>If I help with hers do I need to help her pay for it?< Offer to do so.
>Do I just need to go ahead with mine? Or do I just do one for the dads sides?< Answered above.
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