I'm 20, he's 24. He asked me to marry him a year ago, before we broke up. I no longer have my engagement ring and he hasn't asked me again (formally) since we got back together. We are due with our first child in April and he wants to get married before that. He keeps telling me that if I don't marry him and show him that I am committed that he's moving out, but we will still be together, just living in two differnt apartments. I want to marry him, but there are some things holding me back. He has $30,000 in debt with poor credit and i have 11,000 with average credit. If we get married my creidt will go down farther and we'll have a hard time buying a house or getting into a bigger apartment. And on top of that my entire family (including my parents) will be upset about it. and my mom helps me out a lot right now. So i'm stuck in the middle of it, and if i dont decide to get married I have a feeling that will be the end.
Asked by Anonymous at 11:24 AM on Feb. 4, 2009 in Relationships
Why did you get pregnant if you didn't want to make the full commitment to him? You really have to weigh it out now. Keep having your family happy and getting help from them, or struggle to make life with you SO.
Answer by MrsCarlton at 11:29 AM on Feb. 4, 2009
Answer by MrsCarlton at 11:31 AM on Feb. 4, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 11:35 AM on Feb. 4, 2009
I guess what I said before didn't come out quite right. Why did you break-up in the first place and why did you get back together? Was it because you got pregnant? Do you really think he is the one? If you are not sure, then no you shouldn't get married because you're having a kid. You can be good parents with out a marriage certificate. If you think he's the one I don't see a reason to wait to have the kid unless a big expensive wedding and being out of debt before hand means that much to you.
Answer by Navymama at 11:37 AM on Feb. 4, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 11:37 AM on Feb. 4, 2009
Answer by FuzNet at 11:39 AM on Feb. 4, 2009
Then tell him you are willing to marry him but you want to plan it and have your DD in it. Just lay it out for him. He'll do what you want if he really is committed to staying.....or do the courthouse now and start planning the big wedding for after DD is here.
Answer by Navymama at 11:45 AM on Feb. 4, 2009
Answer by jordiegirl at 11:46 AM on Feb. 4, 2009
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