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I found letters under my boyfriends bed from a girl.
In the letter she mentioned sex, and she couldn't wait till she was 18...
I asked him,he said it was a one time thing and she was about to be 18. But i took matters into my own hands, and messaged her. She told me she was 16 when she messed with him lat year. He was 29 las year. I asked her how old he was she said at the time he told her 23. He lied to her about his age. He claims he never told her his age.
I asked her what they done...she told me they had sex almost every night, sometimes more than once. Also they didn't use protection all the time. She said he also performed oral on her, but never ever kissed her, or told he loved her, or they were official.
I asked my bf...he claims it was a huge mistake! He regrets it. He was lonely, and depressed at the time, and supposedly he thought she was about to be 18... That's a lie she says! He says he's asked for forgiveness from god.....and he is sick just the thought of it. She said it had been going I for 2 1/2 months, and she moved. She said after that they still talked for a bit, and the last time was 3 months ago. He Denies that.
My heart is so torn, it literally feels like its being ripped out my chest. When I think about I feel sick to my stomach!!! Thinking of it makes me tear up! I thought I knew him! I understand everyone makes mistakes. I was with my sons dad at 17 he was 25 but I'm very mature. Messaging her I can tell how immature she was... She looks like a baby still.
Anyways. Could he be forgiven? Should I let this go? Ladies my heart is crushed!!!!!
Asked by Anonymous at 11:13 PM on Aug. 9, 2012 in Relationships