I'm confused and I need some outside opinions. I have a friend, a man, whom I consider to be one of my best friends. I've known him for almost 15 years, and we have dated off and on over those years, and yes, occasionally we have done a friends with benefits situation. We've both always known that when we do that, there is no commitment implied or intended.
Now, here's where my problem is. I've known for a long time that I have some really strong feelings for him - I'd even go as far as to say that I am in love with him. He and I both know that we will probably never date again, because we want some different things that make a relationship difficult. I've also gathered, from things he's said and done, that he probably feels the same way about me. It's kind of begun to feel like an elephant dancing through the room that we're trying to ignore.
So, should I tell him how I feel about him? Should we just come out with it, even though we both know that we will still be just friends - and yes, I do know that it won't cause us to lose our friendship. At this point, I feel that continuing to ignore it might be more detrimental to our friendship than coming clean. Or should we just keep ignoring it since it won't change the status of our relationship?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:32 PM on Aug. 13, 2012 in Relationships
Answer by QuinnMae at 1:35 PM on Aug. 13, 2012
Answer by missanc at 1:36 PM on Aug. 13, 2012
Answer by supgrl87 at 1:38 PM on Aug. 13, 2012
I would also be honest about it. No harm done in telling him and then you won't have an elephant. It almost sounds to me like he may feel the same... but that is just from the little info you provided. Tell him.
Answer by amazinggrace83 at 1:45 PM on Aug. 13, 2012
Answer by figaro8895 at 1:53 PM on Aug. 13, 2012
If you have no intentions on having a committed relationship with this guy. Why poor your heart out to him.
Maybe say you love him as a friend type thing. But anything else is, really a waiste of time to me.
Answer by louise2 at 1:56 PM on Aug. 13, 2012
Answer by NannyB. at 2:09 PM on Aug. 13, 2012
Answer by kimigogo at 3:31 PM on Aug. 13, 2012