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I'm new here and I'm glad I came across this site. I would like to ask for advice and hopefully you will be able to give me some advice. I (25) have been with my husband (DH 33) for 6.5 years and we have only been married a few months now (newly weds!). However, when I met my husband he told me he had a son (at the time his son was 2months old) and his son's birth mom (31, who has another son from a previous relationship and has no contact with him, he lives with his father in another state) was on drugs and not fit or in his son's life fully...just when it benfit her. I took the role of being his son's mother from day 1 I see him as our son and love him more than life itself, and we have been unsepratable since rising this little champ to our best ability. We own a small business and it's doing great - his son is now 6.5 years old and our big boy is going to 1st grade (boy how the days fly). My husband's son birth mom, got her act together this past year she married a jehovah witness man with a 10 year old son who lives with a sibling and calls her mom (she's known him no more than a year) and they just had a son together. She took my husband to court for custody- my husband and her spilt custody and has visitation every other weekend and she has to pay child support (but hasn't been working since the birth of her new child). She is now trying to bond with her bio. son (I want him to know who is real mom is) but everytime he comes home he says (bio. mom name) said she is my mommy and she tells me 5 times a day she carried me and you are not my mommy only my step mom cause you married daddy but that she was with daddy first and she is raising me with daddy not you etc. so, now when he goes down to their apartment (he does what he would like because she is trying to make up for loss time) he calls her mommy and her husband daddy. He stil calls me mommy, but my first question, how do I respond to the questions and tell him I'm not his mom but his stepmom (which is just a name becasue he is my son to me and I've always treated and raised him as such nothing less and I never will) I've been the only mom his ever known since infant until now? second, if possible...do I have any rights of some form of custody (my DH wants me to have some rights in case something ever happens to him God forbid)? If could please leave me your thoughts or some advice I'd really appreciate it...I feel like I have no control over the situation and I will lose my son to his bio. mom.
Asked by Anonymous at 2:37 PM on Aug. 15, 2012 in Adoption
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