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I recently became engaged to a single father. The mother is not in the picture, she is a heroin addict who has nothing to do with her children. It has been very hard for the 6-year old boy since she has left. But his violent behavior started before this. He has always been violent with his little sister, who is 3 and 1/2 years younger than him. He has slammed a car seat into her head at 6 months old, he has thrown things at her head (and hit her) for asking to use his sponge in the bath (she doesn't know her colors yet), he has smashed her face in the carpet, he has wrapped his hands around her throat. He is also violent with adults, he has hit his Nana in the head for not letting him play her kindle because he was not allowed to (he had gotten in trouble at school). He has now become increasingly violent at daycare/school. He has already wrapped his hands around one kid's throat, and then yesterday, he actually held the kid in front of him as he choked him, so that he could see the kid turning red. The kid and him were wrestling and playing and he snapped. He also lies, continuously. I am terrified for the 3 year old. I do not know what to do anymore. We've tried time-outs and taking things away (he doesn't care about anything). We've tried rewarding him. We've also tried spanking him. Nothing works! I'm at such a loss and I'm terrified. Does anyone have any ideas? He is in counseling and they were supposed to do a home-based program, but no matter how much we "pester" we have not heard anything to get it started. I'm just at my wit's end.
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