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Picky eaters at someone else's house....

My 2 year old is picky. She will eat certain fruits, and then the typical child friendly snack & foods, such as PB & J and hot dogs, etc.

We have a couple occasions where we are going to family/friend's houses for dinner in the next couple weeks. I know what they are having and I know she won't eat it. Is it rude to bring something for her that she will eat? At both places they have kids, so I feel like maybe she shouldn't eat something different in front of the kids, but the kids are a few years older than she is.

Trust me, we are not proud to have a picky eater & we are really working on it. For dinner, we do make her try what we are having and she does not get cookies, etc. if she doesn't eat. Plus we choose healthy snacks & don't feel like we give in, but I feel like we know going to these places that there is nothing there she will eat, then she will be hungry & scream.... ugh! Is anyone else going through this??? Thank you!!!! :)

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tmp1283

Asked by tmp1283 at 6:26 PM on Aug. 16, 2012 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • P.S. I was just going to bring a peanut butter & jelly sandwich or something... not like McDonald's where the other kids would be drooling! ;)
    tmp1283

    Comment by tmp1283 (original poster) at 6:27 PM on Aug. 16, 2012

  • I'd tell the host before that you'll bring her something and just explain as you did to us. Most parents get this.
    jeanclaudia

    Answer by jeanclaudia at 6:28 PM on Aug. 16, 2012

  • any idea what the menu is going to be?

    I am 100% sure she'd see SOMETHING she'd tolerate. I'd feed her about 90mins before the event. That way she'd be in snacky mood.
    hibbingmom

    Answer by hibbingmom at 6:35 PM on Aug. 16, 2012

  • I would not enable the behavior by bringing alternative foods. That truly seems absurd to me.
    Mom-2-3-Girlz

    Answer by Mom-2-3-Girlz at 6:39 PM on Aug. 16, 2012

  • Thank you! One place is steak and I'm not sure what sides. The other place is pizza. Yes, I know, my child does not like pizza. My husband and I LOVE pizza. She used to love it, but won't touch it now. :( Good input, thank you ladies!
    tmp1283

    Comment by tmp1283 (original poster) at 6:40 PM on Aug. 16, 2012

  • Thanks for your input. I would think it was absurd if she was older, but 2 is a very tough age to explain to them that they need to eat what is served. We try our best, but it's difficult.
    tmp1283

    Comment by tmp1283 (original poster) at 6:46 PM on Aug. 16, 2012

  • Maybe we'll give her a little something before we go and then encourage her to eat there. This is a tough phase.
    tmp1283

    Comment by tmp1283 (original poster) at 6:47 PM on Aug. 16, 2012

  • Nope I wouldn't bring anything alternative, my kids were raised on you eat what's in front of you or go hungry. I am not a short order cook.
    Mrs_Harsh

    Answer by Mrs_Harsh at 7:11 PM on Aug. 16, 2012

  • Bringing something different is enabling her pickiness, and telling her it's okay to be picky. Don't do it, especially if you want her to stop being so picky.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:18 PM on Aug. 16, 2012

  • bring her something she usueally eats. But do not tell her. leave it in the car. Let her try other foods at the party. if she refuses. Then feed her, her food.
    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 8:19 PM on Aug. 16, 2012

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