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Seems like just yesterday... I was 16, 2 months pregnant, and engaged. I was getting married to what i thought was the love of my life. I met Andrew through a friend. He was everything i ever wanted. Although, now that i look back, i didnt know what i wanted. And i didnt know him. We got married, and 7 months later had a beautiful baby girl. That was when he left for the first time. Just disapeared. No one saw him. No one knew where he was. Andrew was never the type to be able to hold down a job, so i couldnt even go to his work to look for him. He came back about a month later, apologizing. And begging me to give him another chance. I did. He left 4 more times between then and the birth of our second daughter. I was then 19. Andrew still didnt have a steady job. No car. No money. We were living with my parents. I tried so hard to make him happy. All i wanted was the "perfect" family. About this time is when i realized, it probably wouldnt ever happen. Of course he always came back though. And i always allowed him too, hoping this time would be different. At 20 we had our third child. He is now a year and a half. This last june, my divorce would have been final. But andrew came back. I cancelled all court proceedings. And hoped it would be different agian. He was here for a week, but this time i told him to leave. I told him, that for the past 5 years, i have been begging him to be here. To be a family. And now im done. I dont want to be with you anymore. And i asked him to leave. That was the last time andrew and i were together. I havent filed for a divorce yet. But i dont want him back! Im dont living my life not knowing when or if he will leave. 5 years, and he left 23 times. 23 times!!!!!!!! We didnt talk at all for about 3 weeks this time. I contacted him and asked if we could talk. Be civil. For the kids. We were doing pretty good untill today. He actually has a job now, and we had planned to meet up so he could give me some money to help with the kids. I searched for him for 5 hrs. No where to be found. I called the girl he is staying with, and she said he was outside. I went there. He was acting very sketchy. Very twitchy. Very nervous. My oldest was with me so we got in his car, and went to walmart. He kept messing with his lips, over and over agian. I asked him why he was doing that. And he said because he was thirsty. We cashed his check and he got some water. He then asked for some help picking out a phone card for his phone. So i said sure. When i was helping him, he was doing the thing with his lips agian. (for the past 2 weeks people have been telling me and my best friend that andrew is hanging out with a bunch of meth addicts) I asked him why he was doing it agian and he said i told you my teeth hurt. NO HE DIDNT he said he was thirsty. So i bluntly asked him what he was on. He bluntly told me meth. My heart sank, and i was raged in anger. First of all meth is deadly. Second of all, he thought it would be ok to drive high on meth with my daughter in the car?!!?!?! I immediantly left.... but didnt make a scene. He keeps texting me telling me it was a one time thing. It wont happen agian. He loves me and it was because he is depressed. I havent txtd him back. I dont want to. But i dont know what to do. Dont get me wrong, i dont want to be with him!!!!!! At all! But i dont want him on meth around the kids! Has he been doing this all along?? is that why he left all the time??? Im so confused!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Answer Question
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